Yay hamster! I missed you too! I'll be coming by your log sooooon, I promise!
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Hey! Speaking of skiing......its snowing here!?!
Wow! Well, we did have snow on some of the highest tippy top hills here this morning, and we may have 2-4" by morning. A little early, even for me!
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Congrats on passing the first hurdle. I still haven't seen this place, tho. Are you sure it really exists? Hang in there!
Maybe you need to make a special trip out here to make sure?
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Swain was the ski resort I first learned how to ski at when I lived in NY. I like it. Is Holiday Valley still pretty good?
Awesome!!! That's cool that you've been there. So far I love it, and love the people. And yeah, Holiday Valley is amazing. They're rated in the top ten family resort in the US though...a bit out of our league size wise!
Congrats on the opening of Swain. As long as you get more of it than us, I hope you get a good ski season this year.
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Hoping you have a wonderful ski season. I'll even hope for lots of snow for you since you're so far away from me.
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congrats on the opening!
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Major congrats on the opening and I will continue to "will" all the white stuff to your part of the world. LOL!
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Congrats on the opening!!!
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Hey, Celestial Lady! The opening sounds great.
I started foam rolling my hip flexors--ouchie! But it helps a lot. Hope your shoulder is better.
Thanks everyone!! I'm doing well, the shoulder is improving, and I've even done a little throwing around of kettlebells now and then. No major workout, just some activity. The stretching and foam rolling helps a lot--I'm just working at staying faithful. Thanks for the snowy wishes, too, we got five inches a week ago, and it snowed for 4 days straight! Finally melted on Tuesday, though. Boy were my kids excited! It's getting people in the mood for ski season, so it was quite helpful.
Well, I owe all my dear jpfitness friends an apology. I've pretty much abandoned you all--and the strange part is I'm really not even quite sure why! Oddly, although I'm a very social person, when things get tough for me personally I tend to withdraw from everyone around me. It's not just the busy-ness of the new ski are and life in general, or the fact that I'm not working out much, it's that everything seems hard and out of control at the moment, much more so than usual. So instead of getting on the forums and sharing, and getting the support I know you all would offer, I don't even try since 1) I don't want to complain all the time and 2) I don't feel like hashing it all out again--I sort of want to NOT think about anything, just escape...
Anyway, yesterday as I was driving home from Swain, I kind of "woke up" and realized that my life is not going to get any better unless i deal with some things, and just because I can't be perfect doesn't mean I shouldn't start where I am and go from there.
So now, to overwhelm you all...I think it'll be good for me if I can put into words exactly what I'm dealing with lately...here goes:
1. Work: I'm having a much harder time than I expected adjusting to working more hours. I'm probably working about 30-40 hrs a week, so it's not like I'm working 80 hrs or anything. But the 1 1/2 hr drive (on the two days I go to Swain) kills me for some reason, and when we get home, I'm beat! Like I can barely manage to make dinner and do any housework kind of beat. The thing is, it's actually a little ridiculous, and I know it. Lots of people commute like that every day and are just fine! And women all over the world work long days, make dinner, and do housework and take care of their kids without whining and crying about it!
2. Kids: Of course homeschool is a major complicating factor in all this--it's about an extra 5 hrs a day on my part every day. I had decided, when we thought we were pretty certain about starting at Swain, to send the kids to public school. I wasn't happy about it, but I thought I wouldn't be able to do both. But Shawn actually sat me down and told me how good he felt it was for them, and how the flexibility and extra opportunities they have to do fun and cool stuff is so great. We talked and decided the benefits outweighed the difficulty I'd have in balancing work and schooling. I'm actually pretty proud of the fact that so far school is going VERY well--everyone is caught up, they're learning a lot, and having fun.
BUT, I'm always feeling guilty, for ignoring them while I'm working at home, for putting extra responsibility on them, and especially for being gone all day when I'm at Swain. Sometimes Taylor and Bethany babysit, sometimes some or all of them come with me and help/play/do schoolwork, sometimes they stay with one of the Grandmas. If I spend less time working and do something special with the kids, I feel guilty too. I usually cry on my way to work on Saturday, how sad is that?
3. Marriage: Shawn is basically working three jobs (Swain, Denton, and Grizzly Broadheads, his archery manufacturing), so he's hardly ever home, nad when he is, he's stressed and grumpy and noncommunicative. So yeah, that part of my life stinks.
4. Health and Fitness: What's that?! I'm out of shape, sore from sitting all the time, and I found the belly roll I lost earlier this fall. Lately, cooking fast meals is more important than making sure they're healthy. I wasn't working out at all until a couple weeks ago--now I'm actually working out about once a week, which isn't doing much for my body but it's making me feel a bit less slug-ly. I've also been stretching quite a bit which is slowly helping my legs and back. My shoulder is NOT improving at all, which is making me upset--I am going to look up some exercises/stretches and put a plan together today.
OKAY, whine-fest done! Are you still reading? Are you sad I'm back? Lol! Anyway I suppose I should do something about all the stuff I'm whining about. I thought I'd put it all down and yeah, it's not as bad as it seemed, now that I put it all into words. I have a few mini goals floating around in my head, planning on getting them down today also.
Hey girl - it's good to hear from you - we have missed you. I'm sorry things are so tough, though... sounds like you're working a LOT more than 30-40 hours - I mean, you do that, plus a crap commute (and so what if other people do it too - that doesn't mean it's easy), PLUS homeschooling and housework and cooking AND Shawn isn't around at all to help and he's cranky when he's there...
Sheesh! You need some major hugs, some Calgon time, and to give yourself a break. I'd be unhappy/tired/stressed too!!! Anyone would!
I can't tell you what you SHOULD do to change things - you all have to decide what's right for your family... but it seems like something has to give. You're going to run yourself into the ground with that schedule (and so is Shawn). I don't know if you can hire more help for Swain (or how much your partners are doing there), or if there's more help you can get for the kids (homeschool co-op? Reconsider public school?) or what your finances are (can Shawn give up any part of his hectic schedule and help out more?)...
A happy healthy mom and wife takes time to care for herself too... you know that... even in tough economic times...
Hey girl - it's good to hear from you - we have missed you. I'm sorry things are so tough, though... sounds like you're working a LOT more than 30-40 hours - I mean, you do that, plus a crap commute (and so what if other people do it too - that doesn't mean it's easy), PLUS homeschooling and housework and cooking AND Shawn isn't around at all to help and he's cranky when he's there...
Sheesh! You need some major hugs, some Calgon time, and to give yourself a break. I'd be unhappy/tired/stressed too!!! Anyone would!
I can't tell you what you SHOULD do to change things - you all have to decide what's right for your family... but it seems like something has to give. You're going to run yourself into the ground with that schedule (and so is Shawn). I don't know if you can hire more help for Swain (or how much your partners are doing there), or if there's more help you can get for the kids (homeschool co-op? Reconsider public school?) or what your finances are (can Shawn give up any part of his hectic schedule and help out more?)...
A happy healthy mom and wife takes time to care for herself too... you know that... even in tough economic times...
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Aw Bytsi, your post made me cry! I am thinking through carefully what needs to change, and what I just need to get used to. (i.e., the driving--it's not going to help to whine about it) But I DID hire someone to clean my house every other week, for the first time in my life. That should help some. But yeah, I have been thinking through things for the past two days, trying to come up with some little solutions.
Right now my goals are:
-Make healthy meals (except on Saturday, which is my longest day, and we order pizza)
-Eat in moderation
-Stretch/foam roll every day
-Shoulder rehab/stretching every day
-Get on the forums once a day and catch up with my friends!
Next week I'm planning on adding in actual workouts, what a concept!! Start small, right?
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Originally Posted by Phaedrus49er
Your post made me cry too!
No, but I did expect something along the lines of, "Suck it up, whiner!" So I can just feel the love (and restraint)!
Sorry to read about your tough times.. just like Bytsi wrote: you are working many many more hours than you claim to do, mostly due to the homeschooling as the extra being a burden.
You're not whining at all, this is a task most people would crumble underneath...
I've enjoyed reading your log in the past and I must be honest, I've always been amazed and in awe of anyone who homeschools their kids. And you're working a full-time job (with a long commute) to boot? Wow. Things may not be going as smoothly as you'd like, but I'm impressed you're even tackling all of that at once.
Lots of hugs coming your way... I am sorry. I have no idea what its like to be actually busy, and when I think I am, I always tell myself okay, now add in two small kids and see how busy you are now
Like I said, I can't relate really but my Mom worked very long hours, was on call a lot growing up. I babysat my bro and sis all the time, we went to daycare. We didn't always eat the most authentic cooked meals for dinner. I get the feeling she still has some guilt about it all, but the 3 of us turned out pretty good (so far, LOL) and I wouldn't change a second of any of it. I hope that helps a little.
Do what you can and start with one thing at a time. Maybe its one healthy meal a week, 30 minutes of a workout when you can.
Been awhile lady...wanted to stop in and say hi...I echo lots of what's being said in here. You are a good mommy, you know that...change is hard especially when it's decisions about the people you love the most. Time will help you figure out balance. Good to see you...I've been somewhat MIA too...lol!!!
Know that I read what you wrote, and my heart goes out to you.
Until I can come back and write something I think might be helpful: DON'T GO POSTAL ON ANYBODY.
I've missed you.
Aww thanks dear...no postal-ness here! But I do think that now I realize what I'm doing, I should be able to hit things head on and make some improvements. An I missed you too!
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Sorry for the rough times. Glad to see you're okay, though.
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Sorry to read about your tough times.. just like Bytsi wrote: you are working many many more hours than you claim to do, mostly due to the homeschooling as the extra being a burden.
You're not whining at all, this is a task most people would crumble underneath...
Hugs to you!
Thanks Espi--I appreciate all of you guys understanding. My husband is working three jobs, many more hours than I am, so he's not that supportive lol. And I don't think my other friends grasp the whole situation, mainly because I haven't sat down and written them a nice letter like I did you guys, lol! Even my partner Jodi is struggling, and she has one 13yo daughter, who is in public school.
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I've enjoyed reading your log in the past and I must be honest, I've always been amazed and in awe of anyone who homeschools their kids. And you're working a full-time job (with a long commute) to boot? Wow. Things may not be going as smoothly as you'd like, but I'm impressed you're even tackling all of that at once.
Take time for you...
Hi and thanks! I am getting a little better about taking some time for me--my kids beg me to play runescape with them so that's my evening relaxation on the weekends.
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Lots of hugs coming your way... I am sorry. I have no idea what its like to be actually busy, and when I think I am, I always tell myself okay, now add in two small kids and see how busy you are now
Like I said, I can't relate really but my Mom worked very long hours, was on call a lot growing up. I babysat my bro and sis all the time, we went to daycare. We didn't always eat the most authentic cooked meals for dinner. I get the feeling she still has some guilt about it all, but the 3 of us turned out pretty good (so far, LOL) and I wouldn't change a second of any of it. I hope that helps a little.
Do what you can and start with one thing at a time. Maybe its one healthy meal a week, 30 minutes of a workout when you can.
You know how encouraging that was, Bree? Exactly what I needed to hear! I do have so much guilt, especially because of my own childhood. We bought Ski Denton when I was ten, and I always say we went from having a family to not having one at all. My parents both worked endless hours, 7 days a week, even staying at Denton many nights. It was pretty hard, and though they needed to work hard to make the business run, I think they sacrificed too much to do it. So anyway, I really don't want to repeat their mistake.
But what you're saying helped me to realize that as long as I don't go completely overboard, my kids should live, and hopefully thrive on the different opportunities they are given because of the businesses we have.
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Been awhile lady...wanted to stop in and say hi...I echo lots of what's being said in here. You are a good mommy, you know that...change is hard especially when it's decisions about the people you love the most. Time will help you figure out balance. Good to see you...I've been somewhat MIA too...lol!!!
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Originally Posted by Phaedrus49er
I can't be THAT predictable all the time, but I'm glad the restraint seeped through. I will now go kick a puppy to relieve the tension
So short update for yesterday:
-Foam rolling/stretching: check!
-Healthy eating in moderation: good, except for the second helping of spaghetti last night!
-Forums: well I made it to three logs!
-Shoulder stuff: not yet...
Hang in there!
Wow! Well, we did have snow on some of the highest tippy top hills here this morning, and we may have 2-4" by morning. A little early, even for me!
Thanks for the snowy wishes, too, we got five inches a week ago, and it snowed for 4 days straight! Finally melted on Tuesday, though. Boy were my kids excited! It's getting people in the mood for ski season, so it was quite helpful.
Well, I owe all my dear jpfitness friends an apology. I've pretty much abandoned you all--and the strange part is I'm really not even quite sure why! Oddly, although I'm a very social person, when things get tough for me personally I tend to withdraw from everyone around me. It's not just the busy-ness of the new ski are and life in general, or the fact that I'm not working out much, it's that everything seems hard and out of control at the moment, much more so than usual. So instead of getting on the forums and sharing, and getting the support I know you all would offer, I don't even try since 1) I don't want to complain all the time and 2) I don't feel like hashing it all out again--I sort of want to NOT think about anything, just escape...
Lol! Anyway I suppose I should do something about all the stuff I'm whining about. I thought I'd put it all down and yeah, it's not as bad as it seemed, now that I put it all into words. I have a few mini goals floating around in my head, planning on getting them down today also.
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