I posted this in Gardengirl's log and decided to bring it over here. This really bugs me:
I am amazed at the nasty and semi-nasty comments family and friends make when one is losing weight. I received a few when I lost a chunk of weight back in 2001. Someone I know met her goal weight last year and her mother told her that she would "just get fat again!" Losing weight is a major change and I think our family and friends are afraid we will, indeed, change somehow. My mom was not at all encouraging about my weight loss and people were saying that I wasn't eating enough, etc. I received as many negative comments as positive.
Just feeling philosophical this morning
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Karen
Life is short. Break the rules. Forgive quickly. Kiss slowly. Love truly, laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile.
You're not 4 years old. You can tell yourself NO!" Dr. Phil
Hey Fitwit!
You reminded me of a funny story that makes me giggle. I teach high school, and every other day, I eat in the teacher's lounge with the "boys" Mostly older guys. So last year, I was cutting, and I would get questions about what I was eating, or occasionally comments about how much I was eating. Then, a month or two after I stopped cutting and was eating maintenance, one of the guys mentioned how glad he was I was eating again since I had been kind of crabby, ROFL. Now that was funny.
Cardio or more deep and meaningful thoughts on fitness and health
I did 33:54 minutes on the treadmill this a.m. That's how long it took me to do TWO MILES! Gotta work back up to it. I once did (as in one time only) a mile in 10 minutes, that was my best and was one mile out of 3. Only happened once. I usually would do a 12-13 minute mile alternating walking and running. That's okay, that's okay, that's okay, I'll be back!
I have to learn to forgive myself for gaining much of my weight back, take what I can learn from it and do it again, only better. By better, I mean not becoming "skinny fat" and losing muscle which I am sure I did the first time. I was the Cardio Queen back then and you know something? I was tired all the time.
Maintenance was the hardest thing ever for me and as you know if you have read my log, it's something I was/am not good at. When you are losing successfully you are always receiving rewards and it is exciting, there are the new numbers on the scale and then people are noticing you are losing. Hey, that is nice, but when you are maintaining it's the same ole, same ole, at least this was my experience. I think it will be better this time around since I am way more serious about lifting.
Okay, stick a fork in me, I'm done (rambling, that is!)
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Karen
Life is short. Break the rules. Forgive quickly. Kiss slowly. Love truly, laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile.
You're not 4 years old. You can tell yourself NO!" Dr. Phil
Bulgarian Split Squats:
10x40 I only did one set. My left knee started hurting
Underhand Grip Lat PD:
10x80x2
Reverse Lunge from Box with forward reach:
10x15x2 I was able to do these even though I felt a knee twinge just a tiny bit. I did go down to 15 lb. db's.
DB Prone Cuban Snatch:
10x8x2
Swiss Ball Crunch:
1x10xBody Weight only
1x10x30lb. db
Reverse Crunch:
2x10
Lateral Flexion:
2x10
Prone Cobra:
2x30 seconds
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Karen
Life is short. Break the rules. Forgive quickly. Kiss slowly. Love truly, laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile.
You're not 4 years old. You can tell yourself NO!" Dr. Phil
I posted this in Gardengirl's log and decided to bring it over here. This really bugs me:
I am amazed at the nasty and semi-nasty comments family and friends make when one is losing weight. I received a few when I lost a chunk of weight back in 2001. Someone I know met her goal weight last year and her mother told her that she would "just get fat again!" Losing weight is a major change and I think our family and friends are afraid we will, indeed, change somehow. My mom was not at all encouraging about my weight loss and people were saying that I wasn't eating enough, etc. I received as many negative comments as positive.
Just feeling philosophical this morning
It's sad when those we love the most don't support our efforts!!!
I did 33:54 minutes on the treadmill this a.m. That's how long it took me to do TWO MILES! Gotta work back up to it. I once did (as in one time only) a mile in 10 minutes, that was my best and was one mile out of 3. Only happened once. I usually would do a 12-13 minute mile alternating walking and running. That's okay, that's okay, that's okay, I'll be back!
I have to learn to forgive myself for gaining much of my weight back, take what I can learn from it and do it again, only better. By better, I mean not becoming "skinny fat" and losing muscle which I am sure I did the first time. I was the Cardio Queen back then and you know something? I was tired all the time.
Maintenance was the hardest thing ever for me and as you know if you have read my log, it's something I was/am not good at. When you are losing successfully you are always receiving rewards and it is exciting, there are the new numbers on the scale and then people are noticing you are losing. Hey, that is nice, but when you are maintaining it's the same ole, same ole, at least this was my experience. I think it will be better this time around since I am way more serious about lifting.
Okay, stick a fork in me, I'm done (rambling, that is!)
Hey Karen-
I know exactly what you are saying about trying to maintain. Since discovering New Rules I started to see it as we are not maintaining, we are constantly trying to meet the next goal and keep improving physical performance. That is what I like about it being broken up into stages, there is always the next thing you are working towards.
I know exactly what you are saying about trying to maintain. Since discovering New Rules I started to see it as we are not maintaining, we are constantly trying to meet the next goal and keep improving physical performance. That is what I like about it being broken up into stages, there is always the next thing you are working towards.
Good point, Leah! Thanks for putting this in my log! I want to stay focused on that. There are always goals to be set and reached! I wasn't lifting the first time I lost so I only had cardio and diet and that got boring.
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Karen
Life is short. Break the rules. Forgive quickly. Kiss slowly. Love truly, laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile.
You're not 4 years old. You can tell yourself NO!" Dr. Phil
Hey Karen,
Thanks for stopping by my log. I haven't been in here for a while and I just really enjoyed reading your words.
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am amazed at the nasty and semi-nasty comments family and friends make when one is losing weight. I received a few when I lost a chunk of weight back in 2001. Someone I know met her goal weight last year and her mother told her that she would "just get fat again!" Losing weight is a major change and I think our family and friends are afraid we will, indeed, change somehow. My mom was not at all encouraging about my weight loss and people were saying that I wasn't eating enough, etc. I received as many negative comments as positive.
Just feeling philosophical this morning
This is so true. Whether it be jealousy or their own hangups or whatever. It happens and we have to ignore it. Shoot, my husband and my Mother were both making comments for a very long time and I just took what they said internally, and used it as motivation. It seems like people come out of the woodwork to say rude things when someone is making changes in their lives. I don't get it, but I have learned from it and now know that I would never do that to someone. Anyways, I'm rambling. Your workouts look great. Keep up the good work!
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Ginger
"The miracle isn't that I finished. The miracle is that I had the courage to start." ~ John Bingham
I posted this in Gardengirl's log and decided to bring it over here. This really bugs me:
I am amazed at the nasty and semi-nasty comments family and friends make when one is losing weight. I received a few when I lost a chunk of weight back in 2001. Someone I know met her goal weight last year and her mother told her that she would "just get fat again!" Losing weight is a major change and I think our family and friends are afraid we will, indeed, change somehow. My mom was not at all encouraging about my weight loss and people were saying that I wasn't eating enough, etc. I received as many negative comments as positive.
Just feeling philosophical this morning
There's any number of reasons for this:
It's easier to believe that something won't work rather than to actually try it to see if it will. When you provide an example of exercising and eating healthy making progress, it kind of blows that out of the water.
A related idea is that they're transferring their faults onto you. They "would just get fat again" so, you will just get fat again, so they won't have to deal with their body.
People are used to you being a certain person/a certain way. They know how to relate to you as an overweight person, but not this new person you're becoming. Change always makes people uncomfortable, particularly when it's people close to them.
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Tom
No "happy hours" makes for a lot of miserable days. - Mahler
People are used to you being a certain person/a certain way. They know how to relate to you as an overweight person, but not this new person you're becoming. Change always makes people uncomfortable, particularly when it's people close to them.
You have hit the nail on the head, for sure, Tom!
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Karen
Life is short. Break the rules. Forgive quickly. Kiss slowly. Love truly, laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile.
You're not 4 years old. You can tell yourself NO!" Dr. Phil
Okay first off what a CUTE doggie. I have a little guy that I adore. He is a schnauzer. Second I totally relate to the not supporting thing. For the most part people support me but there are always the little digs like last week one of my friends asked another if I was anorexic or some such thing.
I posted this in Gardengirl's log and decided to bring it over here. This really bugs me:
I am amazed at the nasty and semi-nasty comments family and friends make when one is losing weight. I received a few when I lost a chunk of weight back in 2001. Someone I know met her goal weight last year and her mother told her that she would "just get fat again!" Losing weight is a major change and I think our family and friends are afraid we will, indeed, change somehow. My mom was not at all encouraging about my weight loss and people were saying that I wasn't eating enough, etc. I received as many negative comments as positive.
Just feeling philosophical this morning
I hear ya. I have friends who think that I am one calorie count away from an eating disorder. Now, trust me, that's sooooo not true: I love food. It's just that any kind of "hmm, maybe I should cut back" mentality is seen as a huge red light. When it doesn't need to be at all! It's a pretty pragmatic health thing. These are people who have had a past of eating disorders so I think the whole issue comes up as a dark territory, when it doesn't have to be that way. But it can make some relationshps awkward, because I feel like I can't be forthright with what I'm doing or focusing on. It's just easier to not talk about.
Hey Karen,
Thanks for stopping by my log. I haven't been in here for a while and I just really enjoyed reading your words.
This is so true. Whether it be jealousy or their own hangups or whatever. It happens and we have to ignore it. Shoot, my husband and my Mother were both making comments for a very long time and I just took what they said internally, and used it as motivation. It seems like people come out of the woodwork to say rude things when someone is making changes in their lives. I don't get it, but I have learned from it and now know that I would never do that to someone. Anyways, I'm rambling. Your workouts look great. Keep up the good work!
Ginny Lou, I totally overlooked your post. I am a nitwit not a Fitwit! I am glad you stopped by!
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Karen
Life is short. Break the rules. Forgive quickly. Kiss slowly. Love truly, laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile.
You're not 4 years old. You can tell yourself NO!" Dr. Phil
Okay first off what a CUTE doggie. I have a little guy that I adore. He is a schnauzer. Second I totally relate to the not supporting thing. For the most part people support me but there are always the little digs like last week one of my friends asked another if I was anorexic or some such thing.
Thanks Karla. She is a schnauzer/poodle mix, a schnoodle. Her name is Puddin' and she is a sweetie!
When I got down to 130 (granted I was the poster child for skinny fat) I got lots of comments. An aunt told my mom I didn't eat enough. We live 225 miles apart. How could she know?? I had lots of people tell me I was too skinny, the same people who once told me I was too fat. I guess having to lose weight again, it is all coming back to me. I was always overweight to some extent-all my life. There were lots of "head issues" to losing weight for me. I also noticed a difference in the way I was treated. There were 2 people I know, a neighbor and a woman at church, who never talked to me until I lost weight. I hope I don't sound bitter. I am not, just exasperated and interested in human nature, I guess.
The cool thing was I went to my 20 year high school class reunion at 135 pounds. It was fantastic! However, I did not have any problems in high school because of my weight. I had a wonderful time in high school, actually. It was still fun, though. One of my former classmates whom I have known since first grade was absolutely ripped to shreds. She looked incredible! I coudn't believe it.
Okay, I have gone on long enough. Must go to bed, murkle, sniffle, mufflesnort.........zzzzzzzzzz zzzz
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Karen
Life is short. Break the rules. Forgive quickly. Kiss slowly. Love truly, laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile.
You're not 4 years old. You can tell yourself NO!" Dr. Phil
I hear ya. I have friends who think that I am one calorie count away from an eating disorder. Now, trust me, that's sooooo not true: I love food. It's just that any kind of "hmm, maybe I should cut back" mentality is seen as a huge red light. When it doesn't need to be at all! It's a pretty pragmatic health thing. These are people who have had a past of eating disorders so I think the whole issue comes up as a dark territory, when it doesn't have to be that way. But it can make some relationshps awkward, because I feel like I can't be forthright with what I'm doing or focusing on. It's just easier to not talk about.
Another reason why these boards are great!
I know exactly what you mean! You don't feel free to talk about what you are up to for fear of someone giving you a hard time. The thought of me with anorexia or bulimia just makes me laugh and laugh!
Thanks for stopping by!!
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Karen
Life is short. Break the rules. Forgive quickly. Kiss slowly. Love truly, laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile.
You're not 4 years old. You can tell yourself NO!" Dr. Phil
When I was bigger, once an aunt told me, after I had had a severe bout of the flu that landed me in the hospital attached to an IV, that I "looked good." Even in my semi-delirious state I couldn't believe it!
Then this summer when she saw me she told me I was too skinny and practically force-fed me a ginormous plate of food. Complaining the whole time I was going to break in two.
When I was bigger, once an aunt told me, after I had had a severe bout of the flu that landed me in the hospital attached to an IV, that I "looked good." Even in my semi-delirious state I couldn't believe it!
Then this summer when she saw me she told me I was too skinny and practically force-fed me a ginormous plate of food. Complaining the whole time I was going to break in two.
What is it with aunts, eh?
I wish I knew! Amazing!
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Karen
Life is short. Break the rules. Forgive quickly. Kiss slowly. Love truly, laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile.
You're not 4 years old. You can tell yourself NO!" Dr. Phil
Thanks Tracey. She really is! I love that dog. She is one of three, but the other 2 are outside. We also have 2 cats and 8 goats. We had 3 baby goats born this week!! It is so exciting to see the little ones! We have a Great Pyrenees in with our goats. I love those dogs!
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Karen
Life is short. Break the rules. Forgive quickly. Kiss slowly. Love truly, laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile.
You're not 4 years old. You can tell yourself NO!" Dr. Phil
Gotta work back up to it. I once did (as in one time only) a mile in 10 minutes, that was my best and was one mile out of 3. Only happened once. I usually would do a 12-13 minute mile alternating walking and running. That's okay, that's okay, that's okay, I'll be back! 
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