I couldn't think of a cute name for my log, but here it is....

[Fitwit]

I posted this in Gardengirl's log and decided to bring it over here. This really bugs me:

I am amazed at the nasty and semi-nasty comments family and friends make when one is losing weight. I received a few when I lost a chunk of weight back in 2001. Someone I know met her goal weight last year and her mother told her that she would "just get fat again!" Losing weight is a major change and I think our family and friends are afraid we will, indeed, change somehow. My mom was not at all encouraging about my weight loss and people were saying that I wasn't eating enough, etc. I received as many negative comments as positive.

Just feeling philosophical this morning

[mel]

Hey Fitwit!
You reminded me of a funny story that makes me giggle. I teach high school, and every other day, I eat in the teacher's lounge with the "boys" Mostly older guys. So last year, I was cutting, and I would get questions about what I was eating, or occasionally comments about how much I was eating. Then, a month or two after I stopped cutting and was eating maintenance, one of the guys mentioned how glad he was I was eating again since I had been kind of crabby, ROFL. Now that was funny.

mel

[Fitwit]

Hahahaha! That is funny, Mel! Thanks for sharing!

[Fitwit]

I did 33:54 minutes on the treadmill this a.m. That's how long it took me to do TWO MILES! Gotta work back up to it. I once did (as in one time only) a mile in 10 minutes, that was my best and was one mile out of 3. Only happened once. I usually would do a 12-13 minute mile alternating walking and running. That's okay, that's okay, that's okay, I'll be back!

I have to learn to forgive myself for gaining much of my weight back, take what I can learn from it and do it again, only better. By better, I mean not becoming "skinny fat" and losing muscle which I am sure I did the first time. I was the Cardio Queen back then and you know something? I was tired all the time.

Maintenance was the hardest thing ever for me and as you know if you have read my log, it's something I was/am not good at. When you are losing successfully you are always receiving rewards and it is exciting, there are the new numbers on the scale and then people are noticing you are losing. Hey, that is nice, but when you are maintaining it's the same ole, same ole, at least this was my experience. I think it will be better this time around since I am way more serious about lifting.

Okay, stick a fork in me, I'm done (rambling, that is!)

[Fitwit]

Wide Grip DL from box:
10x75x2

Bulgarian Split Squats:
10x40 I only did one set. My left knee started hurting

Underhand Grip Lat PD:
10x80x2

Reverse Lunge from Box with forward reach:
10x15x2 I was able to do these even though I felt a knee twinge just a tiny bit. I did go down to 15 lb. db's.

DB Prone Cuban Snatch:
10x8x2

Swiss Ball Crunch:
1x10xBody Weight only
1x10x30lb. db

Reverse Crunch:
2x10

Lateral Flexion:
2x10

Prone Cobra:
2x30 seconds
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[nutbar]

Only two more workouts left in Stage 2! Woo hoo!

[dillytl]

Originally Posted by Fitwit

I posted this in Gardengirl's log and decided to bring it over here. This really bugs me:

I am amazed at the nasty and semi-nasty comments family and friends make when one is losing weight. I received a few when I lost a chunk of weight back in 2001. Someone I know met her goal weight last year and her mother told her that she would "just get fat again!" Losing weight is a major change and I think our family and friends are afraid we will, indeed, change somehow. My mom was not at all encouraging about my weight loss and people were saying that I wasn't eating enough, etc. I received as many negative comments as positive.

Just feeling philosophical this morning

It's sad when those we love the most don't support our efforts!!!

[LWilson212]

Originally Posted by Fitwit

I did 33:54 minutes on the treadmill this a.m. That's how long it took me to do TWO MILES! Gotta work back up to it. I once did (as in one time only) a mile in 10 minutes, that was my best and was one mile out of 3. Only happened once. I usually would do a 12-13 minute mile alternating walking and running. That's okay, that's okay, that's okay, I'll be back!

I have to learn to forgive myself for gaining much of my weight back, take what I can learn from it and do it again, only better. By better, I mean not becoming "skinny fat" and losing muscle which I am sure I did the first time. I was the Cardio Queen back then and you know something? I was tired all the time.

Maintenance was the hardest thing ever for me and as you know if you have read my log, it's something I was/am not good at. When you are losing successfully you are always receiving rewards and it is exciting, there are the new numbers on the scale and then people are noticing you are losing. Hey, that is nice, but when you are maintaining it's the same ole, same ole, at least this was my experience. I think it will be better this time around since I am way more serious about lifting.

Okay, stick a fork in me, I'm done (rambling, that is!)

Hey Karen-

I know exactly what you are saying about trying to maintain. Since discovering New Rules I started to see it as we are not maintaining, we are constantly trying to meet the next goal and keep improving physical performance. That is what I like about it being broken up into stages, there is always the next thing you are working towards.

[Fitwit]

Originally Posted by nutbar

Only two more workouts left in Stage 2! Woo hoo!

So right, sister! Yay!!

[Fitwit]

Originally Posted by dillytl

It's sad when those we love the most don't support our efforts!!!

I Know!

[Fitwit]

Originally Posted by LWilson212

Hey Karen-

I know exactly what you are saying about trying to maintain. Since discovering New Rules I started to see it as we are not maintaining, we are constantly trying to meet the next goal and keep improving physical performance. That is what I like about it being broken up into stages, there is always the next thing you are working towards.

Good point, Leah! Thanks for putting this in my log! I want to stay focused on that. There are always goals to be set and reached! I wasn't lifting the first time I lost so I only had cardio and diet and that got boring.

[GinnyLou]

Hey Karen,
Thanks for stopping by my log. I haven't been in here for a while and I just really enjoyed reading your words.

am amazed at the nasty and semi-nasty comments family and friends make when one is losing weight. I received a few when I lost a chunk of weight back in 2001. Someone I know met her goal weight last year and her mother told her that she would "just get fat again!" Losing weight is a major change and I think our family and friends are afraid we will, indeed, change somehow. My mom was not at all encouraging about my weight loss and people were saying that I wasn't eating enough, etc. I received as many negative comments as positive.

Just feeling philosophical this morning

This is so true. Whether it be jealousy or their own hangups or whatever. It happens and we have to ignore it. Shoot, my husband and my Mother were both making comments for a very long time and I just took what they said internally, and used it as motivation. It seems like people come out of the woodwork to say rude things when someone is making changes in their lives. I don't get it, but I have learned from it and now know that I would never do that to someone. Anyways, I'm rambling. Your workouts look great. Keep up the good work!

[stingo]

Originally Posted by Fitwit

I posted this in Gardengirl's log and decided to bring it over here. This really bugs me:

I am amazed at the nasty and semi-nasty comments family and friends make when one is losing weight. I received a few when I lost a chunk of weight back in 2001. Someone I know met her goal weight last year and her mother told her that she would "just get fat again!" Losing weight is a major change and I think our family and friends are afraid we will, indeed, change somehow. My mom was not at all encouraging about my weight loss and people were saying that I wasn't eating enough, etc. I received as many negative comments as positive.

Just feeling philosophical this morning

There's any number of reasons for this:

It's easier to believe that something won't work rather than to actually try it to see if it will. When you provide an example of exercising and eating healthy making progress, it kind of blows that out of the water.

A related idea is that they're transferring their faults onto you. They "would just get fat again" so, you will just get fat again, so they won't have to deal with their body.

People are used to you being a certain person/a certain way. They know how to relate to you as an overweight person, but not this new person you're becoming. Change always makes people uncomfortable, particularly when it's people close to them.

[Fitwit]

Originally Posted by stingo

People are used to you being a certain person/a certain way. They know how to relate to you as an overweight person, but not this new person you're becoming. Change always makes people uncomfortable, particularly when it's people close to them.

You have hit the nail on the head, for sure, Tom!

[MuscleMom23]

Thanks for stopping by Karen. I know what you say is true. Just so many bad days in a row. Whew...