I'm completely losing it diet-wise.. [img]/images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img]
As much as I have great inner motivation to train.. I'm having ALOT of trouble motivating myself to keep on the diet.. and I don't even mean to lean out.. I mean to maintain.
I know that I don't want to gain weight.. (and it's not only muscle I'm gaining, I really eating too much)
I think it started when I got this box of chocoats from France for my Bday.. 850 grams!
I think I'm an "all or nothing" girl.. and can't cheat just a little .. I'm giving alot of the chocoates away.. and am really glad to have other people discover how good they are.. but I still have 6 oz left.
But the problem is not only the chocolates.. because I eat them.. I sort of "don't care" about the rest :/
If the foods not in the house you are much less likely to eat it. Seriously get it out of there now, and all other junk food you have in there!!!! I understand it was a gift but you got to do it. Or give them to someone else, a friend or family member.
My wife brought home a bag of M&Ms that a student had given her as a little gift. She was absolutely amazed when she offered some to me and I took one, just one, M&M. Now that has got to be a record of some sort. Ask Jamie, the M&M king.
I get that way every now and then. Like today here at work they are having our monthly food day. There is all sorts of stuff over there from an oven roasted turkey, strawberry shortcake, cream pies, chicken nuggets, veggie tray, meatballs and the list goes on. I have to walk by it about 15 times per day so it gets really hard to not eat about 6 chicken nuggets per time so what I do is try to keep something in my hands when I walk by or get a celery stick or black olive out of the olive tray. It is not working to well at the moment....
Kevin is right! Do it now!
Marykaa, food is ONLY fuel! Use the right one, you know which! JUST DO IT EVERY TIME!
Get pleasure from sport, art, sex, ect.
I know you said it's hard for you to, but try eating just 1 chocolate each night. Make it a reward for not cheating all day and think about how long that one box will last you.
Tossedup, I could go for a big slab of oven roasted turkey right about now, guess I'll settle for some nuts though :/
LD thats too funny do I hear a hint of revenge in there too [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img] just kiddening , thats a great idea.. [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img]
Thanks everyone! I put away a bunch of choclates for my son, made a little box of the hazelnut chocolates for my bybrnd and kept 7 Almonds for myself.. that I'll be able to resissit.
by the way.. "my" junk food is yogurt and Muslix cereals, peanut butter, extra portions of meat.. stuff like that.
and THOSE chocolates.. but that's almost gone now.. thanks again!
MILKO.. yup.. I decided that about 10 years ago.. that food will not be one of my pleasures.. I guess I was just ovewhelmed by the gift aspect of it.
A Gift is a gift as long as it brings pleasure.. this box of chocalte did that for 2 weeks when I kept it to 1 almond, 1 hazelnut and 1 coffee bean a day.. now it is causing pain and anguish.. I am certain this is NOT what my friend wanted for me .. so it's ok if I give the rest away.
LARABEE and MAHLER.. I needed that.. thanks!
If anyone has the same or other suggestions, keep 'em comming.. I haven't licked the whole problem yet.. It's been going on for a few weeks.. I really appreciate amunition.. and it might help others too.
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Kevin is right! Do it now!
Marykaa, food is ONLY fuel! Use the right one, you know which! JUST DO IT EVERY TIME!
Get pleasure from sport, art, sex, ect.
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Very simply put. True, hopefully one day I will learn it as well. Food still gives me to much pleasure at times. Far to often for my liking these days.
OGEDEI.. I've been pretty well doing what Milko said for 10 years now.. helps alot to get through x-mas parties etc. I did get caught off guard by the gift from far away this time.. I'm glad Milko reminded me of the basic principals.. already I'm looking at the rest of the almonds in a different way.
but I want to tell you.. to decide that food is not a pleasure anymore.. is an ENORMOUS decision.. and very anti-social. I had spent about 10 years doing gastronomic cuisine.. like chinese meals from scratch for 10 people etc.. and then another 15 years of "family cuisine" where alot of the activities with extended family was around a meal. No more of that.. and I do miss it sometimes.
not easy being alone on a quest. Sometimes I wonder if it's worth it..
Yikes totaly irresponsible I wil say this now but this is what I do
Mary melt em down and bake a cake and have a pig fest thats what I do everynow and then. I can never just eat one, way too much will power for my feeble body.
So I say today is gonna be a mega bad day I pretty much eat all the junk, rather fitting today as its the start of lent!, so I have as much as I want of everything and whats not eaten goes in a big black bad and out in the trash.
You have enjoyed what you wanted of the gift and that is gratitude dont make a nice pleasure become a millstone
I've gotta add, are you sure you are eating at maintenence?
I have found from experience that it is most difficult to resist temptation when I have not been eating enough for awhile; either trying to lose bf or just being too restricted/busy to eat regularly.
It is personal experience, but when I'm eating at maintenence and its good clean calories it is much easier to resist overdoing it on temptations (though I eat a little dark chocolate almost every day... for my heart health of course [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img])
Would you like me to PM you my address? I'm a teenager, I'll burn that off in no time. [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]
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Would you like me to PM you my address? I'm a teenager, I'll burn that off in no time. [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]
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Yeah! And you'll get zitz. How cool is that? [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]
BFG
Yup as you said.. "You have enjoyed what you wanted of the gift "that's what I had to realize.. "A Gift is a gift as long as it brings pleasure.. " I'm sur my friend will understand.. and he's met my son and boyfriend.. maybe that's why he gave me such a big box.. to share more [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]
KEVIN
pfff! and you want ME to pay the postage! LOL.. come and get them!.. but hurry.. cause
eating quality stuff IS a very good way never to eat junk food after. That's why I'm giving them to my son.. [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img] and he's past the zitz age.
THE SMANIAC You are right.. I have been eating extra clean.. hardly cheating at x-mas, my bday or st-vals.. maybe I had this coming one way or another.
haha i'd actually get sick if i ate that much. I can't have more than a cup of soda every once in a while without getting a bit sick. yea got a buncha sweet 16s coming up, gotta look good- zits = a no-no [img]/images/graemlins/cool.gif[/img]
Maybe this is what BFG was saying but eat, enjoy and workout hard tomorrow. Life is to be lived. You can't always be ruled by the far side of things. Sometimes the middle and moderation is good.
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Maybe this is what BFG was saying but eat, enjoy and workout hard tomorrow. Life is to be lived. You can't always be ruled by the far side of things. Sometimes the middle and moderation is good.
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Sometimes I have an extra workout just so I can have some treat later. I find that quite often, I end up skipping the treat rather than waste all that work.
but I want to tell you.. to decide that food is not a pleasure anymore.. is an ENORMOUS decision.. and very anti-social.
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I am sure most of us have encountered the size of the decision as well as how anti-social it can be. I am sure most of us have even contemplated if it's worth it.
I tend to think that yes it is worth it for the following reasons
1) I look a million times better
2) I feel a million times better
3) I will be healthier longer
4) I accomplished something big, something others view as big as well. Strangers are amazed at what I have accomplished. That's reason in and of itself.
As for the anti-social bit. I fall here at times. But I do not believe it is our fault. I believe we are on the right path and that society in general is wrong. Using food as a reward and celbratory agent is not the smartest move. I can see in the past it when food wasn't as plentiful, how it could be used in this manner. But now? now it is just more crap in the stomach.
Mary I can not get Miko's saying out of my head. On the way to get my wife a ranch potatoe last night I must have said it to myself 15 times!! Thanks Miko!!
I don't look at eating healthy as anti-social, but a way to get people to ask why then preach the benefits of working out and eating right [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]
Luckily for me though my cravings consist of a big filet, side of broccoli and a glass of cab. Sweets and stuff have never been that big of a draw.
TOSSEDUP Yes.. I was real glad to read Milko as well.. he is actually the first person I "meet" that thinks the same was as I have been thinking for the past 10 years. I really was getting to think that I'm a freak. and now I know that it's ok to think that way and that I am not alone!
My EX really got into many fights with me just because I didn't stuff myself at family parties.. and now, my byfrnd, although he understands me and supports me.. is on a learn-to-cook trip. Lukily he agrees to high protein low carbs etc..
But I can't completely maintain the "I don't care about food" and support him in his cooking (specially since I'm his teacher [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img] )
I'm looking into the "French Girls Don't Get Fat" approach.. that says that only the 3 first bites of anything brings us a culinary experience, and that we don't need more to have pleasure. That WOULD be more socialble than what I've been doing.
Maybe a mix of the two.. do not "seek" culinary pleasure.. but enjoy a few bites when they are offered.
TOSSEDUP.. thanks for reminding me that we have to think often of what we want to learn.. these last weeks I was completely forgetting the "three bites" things that I'd been working on for about a year..
S.O.S help!
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