The other day my training partner was doing his set of chin ups, when he had finished and i was doing mine some guy walked over and said something to him and then my partner left the gym all pissed off and hasn't been back this week.
Just wondering if anyone else has experenced gym bullying and what there is to do about it.
I thought everyone there was there for the same goal but i guess not.
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Don't be afraid of anybody. Next time you see him, let it be known that none of that bullshit is gonna fly, if he gets excited then just kick his fucking ass and just have it in your mind that you will. If he beats your ass, fine, but make sure he gets a trip to the hospital too, (everyone's eyes, throat, knees, and ears bust up just as easy as the next guys')
Originally posted by Rev: Don't be afraid of anybody. Next time you see him, let it be known that none of that bullshit is gonna fly, if he gets excited then just kick his fucking ass and just have it in your mind that you will. If he beats your ass, fine, but make sure he gets a trip to the hospital too, (everyone's eyes, throat, knees, and ears bust up just as easy as the next guys')
Riiiiiiiight because this is the tried and true approach to everything Seriously, people get shot having that kind of attitude. You dont even know what was said, much less whether that merited a useless fight.
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"When you begin to believe nothing is heavy, all weights become light." -Rossbow
"Just remember, somewhere there is a little Chinese girl warming up with your max."-Jim Convroy
"It's a round hole, dammit. Everyone fits."--Anonymous Mod at Strengthmill
quote:Originally posted by Rev: Don't be afraid of anybody. Next time you see him, let it be known that none of that bullshit is gonna fly, if he gets excited then just kick his fucking ass and just have it in your mind that you will. If he beats your ass, fine, but make sure he gets a trip to the hospital too, (everyone's eyes, throat, knees, and ears bust up just as easy as the next guys')
Riiiiiiiight because this is the tried and true approach to everything Seriously, people get shot having that kind of attitude. You dont even know what was said, much less whether that merited a useless fight. [/quote]Cut your drama, bitchin, and bullshit.
People can smell fear off of you and will use that against you. I'm not saying be completely stupid and at all cost throw yourself in danger, but damn sure don't be afraid of anyone, that will just get your ass beat and fast. This is my advice, if you don't agree thats fine I don't claim to be all knowing but he was asking advice and I am entitled to give mine despite what you think about it.
Originally posted by Rev:
Cut your drama, bitchin, and bullshit.
Dude what the hell are you talking about?
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People can smell fear off of you and will use that against you. I'm not saying be completely stupid and at all cost throw yourself in danger, but damn sure don't be afraid of anyone, that will just get your ass beat and fast. This is my advice,
You need to reread your original post. You said not to let "none of that bullshit fly" and to fight if the guy got excited. That kind of attitude may have flown in the middle school, but in the real world you need to be more tactful. Again, you have no idea what was said. The guy prolly said that his form sucked and his friend took it personally. Is that worth fighting for?
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if you don't agree thats fine I don't claim to be all knowing but he was asking advice and I am entitled to give mine despite what you think about it.
Where did I say you werent allowed to do this? You seriously need to stop being so volatile in your posts. Youre ebulient in one instance and then straight out da hood in another. Grow up
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"When you begin to believe nothing is heavy, all weights become light." -Rossbow
"Just remember, somewhere there is a little Chinese girl warming up with your max."-Jim Convroy
"It's a round hole, dammit. Everyone fits."--Anonymous Mod at Strengthmill
Uh... Mod interjection here. Let's all take a deep breath. Rev, calm down dude. You're going to need bloodpressure meds by your mid-twenties at this rate. Remember, this isn't MH. We have a bit more decorum in our posting here.
I would get mad and spout off but I don't know what ebulient means...(sigh). Maybe I kind of flew off the handle and was looking for a reason to get mad and/or fight, sorry Gq and jpfitness thread.
sue the guy if he hits you....you'll bleed the sucker and his parents dry with law suits and maybe driving a porche by the time you are 30...cuz you cant count on social security
I was in the hospital tonight listening to a huge man attempt to do what you're suggesting, but in a bed pan instead. I wish the nurses hadn't told me why they wisked me out of the room as I arrived....
Capp - I bet once he started trying to take the poop they got some shit done and did whatever he asked. Never underestimate the role of poop in negotiations.
Danny
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Danny where were you when I was in business school studying negotiation?
I did do something he asked... In the middle of his attempts he asked if someone would help him get up and go to the bathroom...so I went chasing after the nurses for him.
Danny's totally right though. As soon as I threaten my buddies w/ crapping in their beds, they'll get up and get me another beer...
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Hahahaha, Josh I am really sorry I ruined your thread!
On the actual issue I would either talk to the guy or talk to the management if that kind of thing keeps up. I have never really seen it before though so its kind of suprising. It sucks that guys like that are around.
Danny
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So did we ever find out what was said? I can't think of anything someone could say that would make me leave the gym. At most they might get a smart ass response back from me.
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Originally posted by eastcoastsurfer: So did we ever find out what was said? I can't think of anything someone could say that would make me leave the gym. At most they might get a smart ass response back from me.
Maybe it was something as simple as "I just saw DKing crap in your gym bag"
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I've gotten into strange arguments and misunderstandings with people, but even when I was skinny and weak I can't remember anyone ever trying to bully me out of the gym.
One kind of strange/funny story:
This was in the mid or late '80s, when personal trainers were still a pretty new phenomenon in commercial gyms.
I was working out, and some trainer working with his client crowded me away from the space I was working out in. And he did it pretty obnoxiously, pushing his butt right where my face would've gone had I done my next set of the exercise.
So, when he set down the dumbbells he was using with his client (they were supersetting), I went over and picked one up and started using it.
He looked around for the dumbbell, then saw me with it and stormed over, all puffed up and menacing, telling me he was still using that dumbbell.
I got in his face and said, "Well, you didn't care that I was still using that bench when you stuck your fucking ass in my face 2 minutes ago!"
The guy looked big and strong enough to break me in half, and for a second I thought he might. But instead he politely asked if he could use the dumbbell when I was finished.
I said, "Of course," did my set, and let him have the dumbbell.
I never saw him again after that. I like to think that maybe he reconsidered his career path.
I just sit there and laugh my ass off at tools that try to be all tuff in the gym. Nothing like letting them do their little rant, and then pointing at them and laughing out loud. They usually turn red and STFU.
Not to stir up the poop again . . . But all of you guys with lots of testerone surging through your systems need to pray or meditate more or something. . . [img]smile.gif[/img]
Gentlemen: Writing from Minnesota where we just had a tragedy on the nearby Red Lake reservation, let's not show how courageous we are by being tough and standing up to people who are idiots. One needs more confidence and self-esteem to walk away from an idiot. If we need to address someone, we can do it with regular words (no name calling or profanity) and without threats. Simply being calmly assertive can achieve wonders. I'm only 5-5, but I've had no problems standing up to people of any size and simply stating my case. And, usually, I have no problem just walking away and "taking the hit"; it's not humiliation if you don't think it is. It's a hell of a lot better than risking getting shot (my kids want their dad around), getting hurt (I'm blind in one eye; I don't want to risk an injury), or hurting someone and potentially getting sued, and maybe just feeling regret (though I'm not sure I'd feel too bad about messing up a couple of signigicant joints on someone if it was really warranted).
We can be stong, capable, and proud and still be gentlemen, even with the assholes.
Just my two cents to make the world a better place.
Originally posted by Chris Correia: Not to stir up the poop again . . . But all of you guys with lots of testerone surging through your systems need to pray or meditate more or something. . . [img]smile.gif[/img]
Gentlemen: Writing from Minnesota where we just had a tragedy on the nearby Red Lake reservation, let's not show how courageous we are by being tough and standing up to people who are idiots. One needs more confidence and self-esteem to walk away from an idiot. If we need to address someone, we can do it with regular words (no name calling or profanity) and without threats. Simply being calmly assertive can achieve wonders. I'm only 5-5, but I've had no problems standing up to people of any size and simply stating my case. And, usually, I have no problem just walking away and "taking the hit"; it's not humiliation if you don't think it is. It's a hell of a lot better than risking getting shot (my kids want their dad around), getting hurt (I'm blind in one eye; I don't want to risk an injury), or hurting someone and potentially getting sued, and maybe just feeling regret (though I'm not sure I'd feel too bad about messing up a couple of signigicant joints on someone if it was really warranted).
We can be stong, capable, and proud and still be gentlemen, even with the assholes.
Just my two cents to make the world a better place.
So says bruce leroy. [img]tongue.gif[/img]
I think I know what was said..."Meat me in the shower in 5."
Seriously, people get shot having that kind of attitude. You dont even know what was said, much less whether that merited a useless fight.
In the middle of his attempts he asked if someone would help him get up and go to the bathroom...so I went chasing after the nurses for him.
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