Ok, so I know my last few posts on here have been about women. It's not that I think with my other head all the time - if anything, this should show that I'm thinking with my brain. I just really appreciate women. Now that I've got my disclaimer out of the way, here goes...
So I just started a new job this summer. I'm an intern at an "information transmission company." Basically, they make state lottery equipment and what-not. I work in the Human Resources department - It's actually pretty damn fun.
I report to a middle-aged woman, and below here are three other relatively young women (ages 24-27). They get projects from the middle-age woman, and I assist them doing odd-jobs and what-not. One of those three women is about 3 years my senior (25 y.o.) and rather attractive.
I want to bang her.
Now, when I say I want to bang her, I don't really mean that I want to bang her. I'd like to go out and get to know her a little better outside of a work-setting... and then bang her.
Discuss.
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not looking for permission, guys! I'm just more wondering the implications, problems, benefits, etc.
Anyone ever done this? I met my last gf at work, but it was at the Y summer camp, which is MUCH less professional and career boosting than where i'm working now.
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Let's get this out of the way first...you want to bang her, then get to know her JK
Is she considered a boss to you in any way? Do you feel she is giving you vibes that she "wants to bang you" too? Is this a job where you think you would stay on after the internship is over? I've seen relationships in the workplace that work, and those that don't. Women can be crazy ya know
TG is right man, women are nuts and you never really know what's going to happen until it's already done. Even if she says it's cool or whatever, good luck!
Have sex with the middle-aged woman. If you're good enough, you just might get the chance to be number two in charge. Then YOU can tell the other females what to do. [img]tongue.gif[/img]
shark- just invite her out you never know what could happen- if you don't want to do a one/one invite all of the people in the office out one night.i think it'll be fine- i met my last boyfriend at work and it was fine. we kept things quiet for a while but then let it slip and everyone was fine w/ it cause we kept everything professional.
It could go either way...might work out might not. Java has a good idea though..maybe go out for a group thing and see how you two get along outside of work. That way you can get to know her on a more personal level first to see if you really want to pursue it.
I'm going to buck the trend and sound like an old fogie (which I may be becoming). There's an old adage that I've found to be true: never get your meat where you get your bread (also, never dip your pen in the company ink).
Of course, you CAN do it, but if it all goes horribly wrong, your life will be f**ked, not just your body. I've seen it happen too many times to count. Don't say you weren't warned.
Originally posted by sharkbait: after I finnish school next semester.
Nayttaa we jtk kohti lahestya kapakka, haluta.
You can answer me when you complete "finnish" school.
All smart-assery aside, go for it! Ask her out, talk to her, etc. Who's th guy that said, "You never make any of the shots you don't take" ??? Or something clsoe to that anyway... heh. You'll never meet your future wife unless you keep askin' them all out.
Originally posted by Deserve: The one we use is no fishing off the company peer and I agree with it.
Though I do enjoy intern season.
you guys are too funny! I have my reservations. most definately! Which is why i've posed the question here. I'm just thinking since i'm an intern, maybe it'll work a lil differently? (Wishful thinking!)
and YES, she is hot!
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I'm with Kaiser. When I was a bartender, it was common practice to prey (or be preyed upon) on the waitresses. Man, did I go through some sh*t with them sometimes. The sex was always good, but the backlash just wasn't worth it...most of the time
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If you have no intentions of staying at this job long term and you have good references elsewhere when you seek out another job in the future, then go for it but know of the drama that can occur if stuff goes sour (which will happen if this becomes a relationship).
If it were me, and I had my bases covered, then Id go for it.
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I have to side with the "don't get your honey where you get your money". I dated someone at work once, make that she hunted me down. I wasn't having any luck outside of work at the time (fall, so we had lots of surf, it was either surf or date, surfing never let me down). Things went well for a while until she got pissed because I was spending more time surfing than with her. Then she got even madder and asked a guy out I worked with. I was about to leave for a 3 month trip so I broke it off. Man, that last 2 weeks was pure hell. Not worth it.
I thought that was bad. When I returned I ran into her friend one day. She was really cool, we got along well. Started dating, she told my ex (who I still worked with) what a great guy I was. The ex GF went totally nuts so I quit.
I'm in a situation now where I have 2 coworkers hitting on me. I don't work in their office all of the time, but it's risky. One is about to divorce, the other is single for a reason I have no idea why (my goodness do I love Italian women!).
If you hit on the boss be prepared for hell if something happens. If you hit on her watch out for the harassment gig!
I think you might have a greated degree of latitude because you're an intern. I certainly wouldn't do it in any other workplace but you might be able to pull it off (bad choice of words?) in that situation. Hey, internships are where you LEARN about the workplace, right? If it doesn't work out, you can always say, "I didn't know better! I'm just an intern."
Originally posted by ODB: Shark, you're going to be a virgin forever if you keep spending so much time on this board asking our advice. Now go get laid!!! (...but not at work!)
haha... i get laid plenty, thank you... lost my V-Card years ago. "can I have yours?" oh snap! gotta love lame pick up lines!
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Originally posted by CAchief: slap her butt when she's at the copy machine.
LMAO!!!!!!
Shark, you're working in the HR dept and want to "bang" a co-worker? Uh, that's just ask'n for trouble in my opinion. There's an old saying - "never dip your pen in company ink"
That being said.... Yes I've done it Twice.... wait, three times....wait.... aw hell, I can't remember how many times. I've never regretted it myself, especially sneaking off to a little secluded area and..... ahem, well anyway. Somehow I've always managed to come out smelling like a rose. Don't ask me how I got so lucky. Even managed to go from one such lovely straight to another....................... .............................. .............................. ............... huh? what? oh sorry, reflecting back on a few memories. It sure was nice being young, dumb (no offense intended) and full of... well, you know.
I should now say after my retrospect that you should listen to the parent in me now when I say "Do as I say not as I did"
Ah, you're going to give it a go anyway right? Have some fun with it, but just CYA - you're in HR remember...
Originally posted by castufari: I thought that was bad. When I returned I ran into her friend one day. She was really cool, we got along well. Started dating, she told my ex (who I still worked with) what a great guy I was. The ex GF went totally nuts so I quit.
This is awesome, I wouldnt have quit. Idve let her friend continue to praise my name
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I'm in a situation now where I have 2 coworkers hitting on me. I don't work in their office all of the time, but it's risky. One is about to divorce, the other is single for a reason I have no idea why (my goodness do I love Italian women!).
Maybe theyre into the group thing
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I should now say after my retrospect that you should listen to the parent in me now when I say "Do as I say not as I did"
Interestingly, I ran this by my dad (i didn't say I wanted to "bang" her, obviously. I said she was cute). My dad is the senior VP of Human Resources for his company.
He asks me what I'm gonna do about it. I tell him, "nothing. It'd be unprofessional." He tells me to go for it. "You're just an intern. You don't have to worry about it!" God, i love my dad!
Side note, my favorite is "don't crap where you eat."
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"When you begin to believe nothing is heavy, all weights become light." -Rossbow
"Just remember, somewhere there is a little Chinese girl warming up with your max."-Jim Convroy
"It's a round hole, dammit. Everyone fits."--Anonymous Mod at Strengthmill
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