Right now im am getting my degree in Diagnostic Sonography and Radiology. I used to want to do this, but for the past 3 years, i just feel like its not something i want to do but yet my family persists on me doing this.
Im applying for Cullinary Arts and I love to cook. Its just something that is manditory in my family. Im really excited and I enjoy it very much so.
NOW THE HARD PART>.....
MOM doesnt know that im switching schools.... She would flip, i brought up the subject of me going into cullinary arts and she was like NO, your going to med school. And that was the end of it. I think she is more worried about me not being financially stable then anything. So do i tell her or just let her find out when it is already to late.
Andre knows that im giong into cullinary arts and he supports it 110% and he is very much so excited about the fact that i am doing this. He knows how much i love to cook, since i cooked for him 3 months straight. I love cooking, and i love an honest opinion on my cooking too. If something didnt taste right he would let me know and i would figure it out and make it right.
So what should i do, should i tell mama and baba or no and not worry about it. I am leaving the house this year anyway and i will be with andre.
What do you want to do? Taste the waters before you switch degrees...cooking at home is nothing like cooking in a working kitchen. I thought culinary was it for me, 9 months later I was sick of food. I still enjoy cooking, but not when there are an army of people waiting on you.
cooking for more then one isnt an issue for me, i have before and plenty of occasions.... cooking isnt a chore for me its something i enjoy. Regardless of what i do its something i do everyday. I have a huge family so when holiday seasons hit.... you better believe the girls are in the kitchen and its like an assembly line. Its fun, chaotic, screaming, and enjoyment with the final product.
Cooking is something i want to do, and i have tested the waters this summer with it. thats how i know i want to do it. But my question is should i tell mama and baba or just let it ride it since my fiance knows and we are getting hitched soon real soon.
They are your parents, you should tell them. Just don't let them pressure you into something you don't want to do, it is your life and your future. Besides, if you continue with this program and only complete it half-assed since you aren't interested in it, how well do you think you will be doing your job as opposed to someone who went into -and finished- the program completely enthralled in it?
Like Castufari said, try it out before you go switching degrees. Try getting a job in a restaurant if you haven't already, or an internship if they do that, just to see what it's like. Good luck.
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Blah me and mom just got into it. I told her i was going up to the school tomorrow and she was like, good you can drop me off at your dads while your up there. I told her wrong school and she just laughed at me? WHAT THE HELL!!!!
Go by your mom first, your dad looks like Benecio del Torro, and thats just not someone Id want to mess with [img]tongue.gif[/img]
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Family is grande. You did the right thing by telling them. If you're paying your own way then you're acting like a responsible adult, making life choices and sticking by them, and doing what's best for you and your soon to be family.
Parents and other family sometimes have a hard time respecting children\family members like they would as an equal. If it were anyone else they'd probibly listen and have no issue. You're their little baby girl and they love you and want you to do the right thing. Unfortunately they may not be willing to admit that you as an adult may make choices about what's best for you that might differ from theirs.
It's painful sometimes, but just be the best you, you can. [img]smile.gif[/img]
I bet if your mom finds out you posted a picture of her sleeping she would be even more mad. I think you did the right thing by telling her.
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Originally posted by Ira Levine: Radiology vs. Culinary Arts should be a no brainer, my advice, go to medical school! You'll get paid a hell of a lot more and work less hours.
Well, if she doesn't feel as though she'll gain satisfaction in Medicine, then it's best to look elsewhere. I'm lucky in that I've found a career that I really enjoy, but it's not for everyone.
well i talked with my mom and she isnt liking it too much...
but she is comming around.
Thanks guys for the diversity. Dad doesnt really care as long as im happy..
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Move out and pay for all of your own schooling, etc. Easier than fighting with Mom or posting 2080x1368 images.
And ummm lets get some thing straight here...
RULE #1 im not in a good mood sooo here ya go!
MOVE OUT AND PAY FOR ALL OF MY OWN SCHOOLING, ETC.
Ok bud... i would love to just pack my things and go, but yet i have something i respect greatly in my parents home. Its called FAMILY MORALS AND CULTURE! im not moving out till im married. And just so you know buddy, i do give my parents an even 300 a month, just because i stay under their home. Been doing that since i was 16. Now what i found out was that they havent spent a dime of it instead saved it for when i get married. and to be queit honest im glad they did it.
Next, i pay for everything i own do or use. Now SCHOOL..... hunny i said MED SCHOOL RIGHT? MEANS I HAVE SOME SMARTS.... i have scholarships galore to take care of my everyneed. HELL I GET PAID TO GO TO SCHOOL. Im not one to brag but umm I WILL BRAG NOW. They pay me nice and hefty too. Not to mention I do have a nice full time job that pays quiet nice also. Money is not an issue for me.
I ASKED FOR ADVICE ON DEALING WITH MY PARENTS not running from it.
THE PICTURE>..... ITS MY MOMMA SHE DESERVES THE WHOLE THREAD. I CAN COMPLAIN ON MY MOMMA YOU CANT.
heres another picture just for your amusement!
AND YES ITS A BIG ASS AND A BIG ASS PICTURE TO MATCH IT!
Originally posted by bobby: If you don't like what you're doing it doesn't matter whether or not you're making more money, you will be miserable.
I completely agree bobby
i have always told myself its not how much money i get paid but wether ill come home with a smile or not
and its good you told your parents but just do it for your best interest not anyone else's i know there your parents but they wont be the ones working you will and like i said before as long as you come home with a smile its all good
oh yeah and if you ever need a person to try out your new recipes just pm me im willing to try mostly anything
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Just something to check into is the status of your current scholerships and if they have any conditions to them.
The reason I ask is my wife had a full ride to a private college...which was great. She dropped out...ehh. We got a letter in the mail that we had to pay the school 10k in the next 30 days.
Apparantly at least one of her scholershops said that if she dropped out of school she had to pay back what they gave to date.
Ive seen that happen Gobbla. All of the scholarships i have are nonrefundable I checked into that before i accepted them. Just in case i did feel like i wanted to transfer or change my degree. The scholarships im riding on right now are just as is or same as cash. Which i can stack those scholarships.
I still have scholarships that i earned since i was in highschool that i havent even touched or tapped into yet. Financially stable i am.
i think she is adapting to the fact i want to do something else. Even though the pay is greatly less, i really enjoy it.
Follow your passion. Think about doing something for the next 30+ years that you know is not right for you. There are a lot of people who do that because they have to. You obviously do not. Enjoy what you do and as much money as you need will follow, maybe more.
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Originally posted by Deserve: Follow your passion. Think about doing something for the next 30+ years that you know is not right for you. There are a lot of people who do that because they have to. You obviously do not. Enjoy what you do and as much money as you need will follow, maybe more.
Amen. I did Accounting, b/c I thought the money would be good (I'm not going to lie, but it is very good.) I hate my job though. It affects every other aspect of my life, and it's just not fun. I'm going back to school to pursue other areas, but you should do what you like to do. I think maybe if I was broke, I'd say otherwise, but I'd rather be happy than rich any day of the week. Money will come, hopefully.
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I'm starting pre-reqs for a Masters in Nutritional Sciences. I would like to do clinical diet work, and have been doing a wee bit of volunteer work at the local children's hospital to see if nutrition really interests me beyond creating my own diet. I love the time I've spent at Children's, it's been awesome, so I'm pursuing it one class at a time until I feel comfortable going back full time.
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It is, but I figure combining the business background with a nutrition one could come in handy someday. We shall see indeed, and it's a LOOOONG road ahead.
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Originally posted by Chera:
Thanks guys for the diversity. Dad doesnt really care as long as im happy..
Alright, Id roll with Benicio on this one I honestly think your mom just wants to make sure youre financially stable and that you dont succumb to "women's work" when you have the intellgence to do whatever. Thats understable given that she probably didnt have the same opportunities as you for a variety of reasons. I think she'll come around though.
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heres another picture just for your amusement!
AND YES ITS A BIG ASS AND A BIG ASS PICTURE TO MATCH IT!
Im amused, that picture rocks so much.
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Chera, you did the right thing by coming clean with the "rents" and expressing your true feelings. No one can ever blame you for that! I do really like what Deserve said. You've got to follow your passion or else you'll wake up one day and find that you're in a job that is unsatisfying -- and there's nothing worse than that!! Follow [bold]your[/bold] dreams, not someone else's, even if someone else's may lead to more financial security than your own.
I only take issue with one comment in this whole thread and that is the one about money not buying happiness. It may be vain, unpopular, self-centered, etc., but believe me, there are people in this world for whom money does indeed equal happiness and those individuals do find fulfillment in sheer wealth. I guess what I'm saying is that each of us needs to "define" ourselves and not allow outside forces to make that distinction. It's much easier said than done, but it is possible by always remaining true to yourself and every once in a while by just giving into your whims. You should enjoy life in whatever way you can.
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I honestly think your mom just wants to make sure youre financially stable and that you dont succumb to "women's work" when you have the intellgence to do whatever. Thats understable given that she probably didnt have the same opportunities as you for a variety of reasons. I think she'll come around though.
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