Cousin and I start talking again.

[Rev]

I have this cousin...we hadn't spoken for around five years. He's from Detroit, and lets just say he isn't the most innoccent, clean type guy ok. I stayed away from him because I don't get involved with trouble, but he supposively cleaned his life up (again...) and he needs someone to talk to so he starts messaging me a couple days ago. This is ok I guess...I don't know, I'm not real accepting, I don't like to deal with bullshit and once you've been burned a thousand times you stop touching the pan. But as a kid I remember him always being interested in weight training but I was too young to understand it and always looked up to him in that light, but I had this convo with him today.

him: well im going to to go work out so ill catch up with you later..
me: what are you working today?
him: arms
him: thtas all i do anymore
him: waiting for the summer to work on the rest
me: ...well have fun
him: ok later

I didn't even want to say anything. He lifts to get bigger, but I mean...for some reason I didn't even really care to help, I guess I doubt he'd even listen or maybe I just dont care. I don't know why but for some reason a part of him really hates him. Ah yes, family. Anyways, thought this was funny.

[I. Kay]

Like you said, some people just won't listen. You can sometmies tell which ones won't, even before you try to help them. Obviously, if he's just doing arms, and working on "cleaning up his life", then serious training isn't one of his top priorities. Correcting him (or even suggesting a change) wouldn't go over so well right now.

Just smile and nod.

[Rev]

exactly lol

[Mike's Girl]

I have been there Rev. and in your shoes. My younger cousin, who is evil with every intention, and i dont get along at all. She would constantly do things and set it up to look like it was me. And of course i looked like the black sheep of our family. It got so bad that it came to a point where i got fed up with it and i got her back. Huge fight broke out and she pulled my hair lool (girl fight) anyway i have 4 brothers i dont pull hair so i punched her and broke her nose. Didnt mean to but when your fighting you do a lot you dont mean to. We didnt talk to each other for 6 years. Untill finally she called me back saying she was sorry and she cant stand the fact that we were being like this. Even though now im here to help her with what ever she faces, and after 2 years we do talk on a regular daily basis. I still dont trust her, i dont think i ever will becuase i know she is trying to change but people just dont change over night. I love her of course but i dont trust her and i keep myself distant. She tells me everything but i dont let anyone know anything back. Just because of the fact of the past that she takes it and twists and turns it back on me.


Rev. best thing for ya is let him open up to you, that way the cards are in your hands. Even when he wants to let you know and talk to you, give advice what ever works, Just be careful!

Me and my cuz have lots of fun! Its easy to loose trust but hard to gain it back. So be nice and see how it goes but dont put your gaurd
down

[von_Hayes]

Rev. sounds like he needs the relationship more than you do. chera offered up some excellent advice. I would self disclose very carefully and at a very slow pace. good luck