Good riddance! I had too many friends anyway. tongue
cold hearted dismissal (but I did like the tongue part...)
Quote:
Originally Posted by OldGuy
Peter? Hmmmmm.....
mild disinterest.....
Quote:
Originally Posted by Phaedrus49er
PETER! *sniff* I'm so... so... SORRY!!! *sniff*
scathing sarcasm
Quote:
Originally Posted by Jean-Paul
What's wrong with FB? Too many old girlfriends looking you up?
and wild fantasy and conjecture...
In answer to those inquiring minds who just have to know:
just kidding
but seriously...
Actually it was an experiment to see how it worked and I found:
1) I did not like how accessible to anyone you have "friended". It would be nice if you were able to create layers of levels within facebook that allowed to you open only parts of your facebook to certain groups.
This in itself is not such a big deal, but the problem lies withing the "facebook culture: I thin that many people would be taken aback if you did not accept their "friendship" invitation. So you find yourself (or I think so) in a situation where either you post in a guarded fashion (knowing that a colleague that you "had to friend" might see it,) or possibly having something bite in the ass at some later date.
===============
Let me toss this out for comments. Do you friend basically everyone who asks- or do you refuse them. How about people from work? family? if you are in college, your parents?
If someone declines your invitation to be a friend - how do you feel? Do you take it personally?
cheers
peter the friendless
__________________
Peter
After all, diamonds are a girl's best friend…
You can customize what people can see… and even by group or individuals.
I decline friend reqs from people I don't actually know somehow. It's not personal. I even decline reqs from people that I might belong to the same whatever with them (school, forum, etc) but don't really actually know. I have declined from people I do/did know and just don't want to be FB friends with… *shrug*
I find there's the people that treat it like a mash between real actual friends and networking… so those are the people I might know of, and kinda travel in the same circles with, but don't necessarily "know."
On the bright side, you can get to know people better that way and make more friendships. Depends on how you treat it.
I don't friend people too often, I usually just get reqs. I'm in no way offended if I do send one out and it gets ignored. Why should I? People treat what "friend" means differently and some people only are friends with their actual real life close friends and family (for a bit that was me even), or whatever… I mean, if you're that upset about something like that, I think you need to get over yourself.
And I have plenty of people who friend purge all the time… I'm sure I'm just overlooked that I'm still on their lists.
Aoife's right - if you go to the settings drop-down and select privacy, you can set individuals or groups of friends to see only certain parts of your profile...
Re: privacy - What Aoife and Bytsi said. It's a real hassle to do at first, but it's worth the varying levels of privacy you can set. For instance, I know people who have in-laws as "friends." Now, it'd be uncouthed to ignore/deny the friend request from them, but they don't need to know EVERYthing (you can also customize who can see which photo albums).
Re: requests - No, I don't accept all requests. Most people who request me do have some sort of past connection, but the few that come in out of the blue, I ignore. This isn't MySpace. On the flip side, I don't request anyone I don't already know. On the whole, I can count on two hands the number of "friends" I have who I've never met in person or even spoken with--these are networking opportunities in the fitness community for me.
__________________ No Magic Pill (the log)
My Movember page (yes, I'm slacking on pictures)
Aoife's right - if you go to the settings drop-down and select privacy, you can set individuals or groups of friends to see only certain parts of your profile...
Quote:
Originally Posted by Phaedrus49er
Re: privacy - What Aoife and Bytsi said. It's a real hassle to do at first, but it's worth the varying levels of privacy you can set. For instance, I know people who have in-laws as "friends." Now, it'd be uncouthed to ignore/deny the friend request from them, but they don't need to know EVERYthing (you can also customize who can see which photo albums).
I didn't know this either, but it would so nice if you could make it so some people could not see all of your status updates. For instance, last night I was annoyed that DH had to leave again to help his dad. Wanted to vent in FB to those who "get" why that bothers me, but did not want to note it to my in-laws, who are my FB friends.
Thanks for your comments. I know you can cutomize some parts (like photo albums - a bit of a hassle - and parts of your profile. But as Karen has said, it seems (perhaps I am mistaken) that you can not block off part of your wall.
Another thought Aoife is that people my age (early 40's) might not have the same reaction as a younger person as to being rejected as a friend. so I wonder whether my facebook page will be my "advert to the world (or the people bored enough to visit) where I (pardon the pun ...) put on my best face....
BTW- it is my understanding that facebook has become the defacto standard for social networking. Is that correct (have friendster and others died?)
Cheers
Peter
__________________
Peter
After all, diamonds are a girl's best friend…
That explains a lot. I guess I shouldn't have gotten my feelings hurt. You do stop by my log so I guess I'll settle for that.
I also decline reqs from people who aren't smart enough to say "Hi, I'm "screennamehere" from "suchandsuchplaceontheintertube z."
Although, my MIL isn't happy with my decline… so I'm not answering the req this time. (I thought you didn't get to re-req if someone declined, but apparently you can… sigh)
no.
but whereas I thought you didn't appear as an option to friend anymore, apparently you do. I don't know if you appear as an option if the request is still pending.
I did not like how accessible to anyone you have "friended". It would be nice if you were able to create layers of levels within facebook that allowed to you open only parts of your facebook to certain groups.
hi mitch thanks for the link- my comment was not specific enough I guess. I know about the groups, but there is not enough fine tuning. Except for the photos, it is ALL or nothing. If I want to provide my email address but not pphone numbers, to different groups, I cannot.
I think that facebook shoudl have more fine tuning within the categories.
cheers
Peter
__________________
Peter
After all, diamonds are a girl's best friend…
I also decline reqs from people who aren't smart enough to say "Hi, I'm "screennamehere" from "suchandsuchplaceontheintertube z."
Although, my MIL isn't happy with my decline… so I'm not answering the req this time. (I thought you didn't get to re-req if someone declined, but apparently you can… sigh)
That's OK Kleenex is cheap. I wiped my eyes, blew my nose and got over it.
__________________
Past performance is not indicative of future success.
Never argue with an idiot. They drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.
facebook and features
Linear Mode
