My ex finally started a new job today. It took her 3 months to get it. She's there 7 hours or so when one of the docs walks in and makes a comment about the staffing. Ex chimes in on it and goes on her tirade about how screwed up staffing there is. The doc - who is new - says that she's going to talk to management about it. Ex says "oh, call the medical chief of staff, who is on call today". The doc calls, lays into the guy. He wants to know what got her going, the doc says that she talked to other staff who said understaffing is a known issue. CoS walks down, finds the ex, and cans her since apparently she's only been there a day and has issues with the place. This is the 3rd place she's been canned from in the past year.
How can I drill it into her head that she is either going to have to STFU and just do her job or move onto something else? She spent alot of time trying to get this job. A bunch of interviews, some additional training, etc. Her day today didn't pay her enough to recoup her investment.
She called me tonight and told me about it and I asked her why she had to keep bitching about staffing. Yes, levels are tight. They're tight everywhere. You either live with it, bitch about it (and chance getting canned) or move onto something else. Before I finished that sentence she started on a tirade about how bad nursing is, etc, how no one appreciates nurses and how underpaid they are. I didn't know what to say other than "man up, deal with it". Then I hung up the phone.
I really don't want to bring this up in court again but damn....she's going to have to STFU and GBTW.
How can I drill it into her head that she is either going to have to STFU and just do her job or move onto something else?
Are you paying maint for her? I don't mean child support, but maint, formerly known as alimony.
How in need is she for money?
And you're right about it being tight all over. My place is stacking 2-3 times the work load on us, and still they say we're paid the industry standard...oh, really? Am I doing the industry standard workload? Are my current job duties standard for my title?
Anyway, now that I'm done whining, I feel for ya. This sounds somewhat familiar to my ex.
Wait a freakin' minute... she's a nurse!?!?! And things are tight??!?!
I thought nurses were basically the most in-demand positions in the country. Nobody has enough nurses.
I have to agree to an extent. Perhaps Cast misspoke. I can see nurses being in such short supply that they're pulling 2-3x the workload, but I'd be real surprised if it was an fiscal reason for the short staffing.
Don't you have to have a really good reason to fire someone nowadays? I mean, better than "well she complained about the working conditions".
Maybe she could get the job back..
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There are so many jobs out there right now in most parts of north america, doesnt really matter to much what you do even. Sounds like she doesnt want to work, who complains on their first day? Id fire her without even thinking twice about it.
Critical care nurse...crap, you show up and they'll put you to work if you're sober.
I pay child support and some maint but that is temporary. Alimony was an issue but since her earning power is more than mine she didn't get it. As long as the kid was fed/clothed/watered and doesn't have to take a lifestyle hit I'm happy. I pay for her school and equestrian activities.
I think it's time I went over there and doled out a pimp slap.
Document everything. That way, if she tries to hit you up for more money, you can demonstrate that she is not even trying to hold a job and has the necessary skills to get and hold one.
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