I just received a phone call from my mother telling me that my grandma passed away last night. She was in her early eighties, and she was in the very late stages of Alzheimers. I don't know how many of you have are familiar with this, but in my opinion, this has got to be the WORST, most horrible disease there is. I am very sad, and miss her, but there is a big part of me that is relieved that she is gone. She had no quality of life, and hadn't for some time. My aunts and uncles tried to take care of her themselves for a while, but it was too much. The emotional burden on the family is unbelievable. I guess I posted because I wondered if there are others here with family members with this horrible disease.
My grandma passed away of the same thing. It was terrible for the whole family. Heartbreaking to see and even though you try to understand, it was a sad feeling to not be recognized or remembered by someone who you love so much.
My mom didn't have Alzheimers, but she was debilitated for the last three years of her life. My dad wore himself out taking care of her until her death. There is a big measure of relief when this kind of misery is over. I do understand missing her but also feeling like it is a relief. It's a mixed set of emotions that comes and goes. My heart goes out to you and your family.
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My condolences Michelle. We have close friends whose father, still in his mid 60s, has very bad Alzheimer's. He just had a stroke and was in the hospital for a while. You are right - it is horrible to watch them go through that.
I'm sorry for your loss...but take comfort that she wasn't cognizant of everything leading up to the end...My father was the youngest person ever diagnosed with Parkinsons and doctors delighted in seeing the disease progress further than in any other patient. A patient physically fit enough for more extreme surgery/experimentation than any previous...a fully aware intelligent individual trapped in a less and less reponsive/communicative body. She was spared that and is in a better place. Take comfort in that.
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I'm so sorry, Michelle. My grandfather is going through dementia/ Alzheimer's right now and it is very difficult.
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Michele,
I am so sorry for your loss. My mother and mother-in-law are the same age. Both will be 85 this year. My mother is in good health for her age and is alert and goes for walks daily. My mother-in-law is in a nursing home going through the ravages of Alzheimer's. It is painful to see her. I feel so badly for my wife when we visit and there is no recognition. It is truly, as you say, one of the most horrible of diseases. My prayers for your grandma and you and your family. Take care.
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What they all said. My aunt went through the same thing, and my mom would drive three hours each way several times a week to take care of her. It's not a pleasant means of death. We're here for ya.
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Michelle, I feel for you. I am so sorry for your loss.
I worked in a nursing home for about a year before going to medical school and this is just the worst disease for the families--the person no longer is really "there" at the end. Your grandma doesn't have to suffer any more, now. Relief AND grief are both entirely normal reactions.
I'm sorry for your loss. We went through a similar situation, and the feeling of relief is to be expected. We focused on the good memories to get through the tough times. Our thoughts go out to you and your family.
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I just received a phone call from my mother telling me that my grandma passed away last night. She was in her early eighties, and she was in the very late stages of Alzheimers. I don't know how many of you have are familiar with this, but in my opinion, this has got to be the WORST, most horrible disease there is. I am very sad, and miss her, but there is a big part of me that is relieved that she is gone. She had no quality of life, and hadn't for some time. My aunts and uncles tried to take care of her themselves for a while, but it was too much. The emotional burden on the family is unbelievable. I guess I posted because I wondered if there are others here with family members with this horrible disease.
Hello Michelle,
I have cases of Alzheimers in my family, my uncle was just diagnosed several months ago. He kept complaining that he couldn't figure out why he could not balance the check book anymore.
Although he is active in a local support group and does give public speaches his condition is worsening daily. The other day he got lost in his own yard.
Jim~
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Michele, my sincerest sympathy on the loss of your grandmother. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
My grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimers several years ago. I only get a chance to visit her once a year or so, and it's always incredibly difficult to see this very intelligent woman, someone I've always admired, lose interest in the things that fascinated her. While she's still mobile and walks very well, it bothers her greatly to no longer be independent, to not remember enough to read anything or do crossword puzzles or garden or do the things she used to. I manage to get through our visits, but I always break down in the car as I'm driving away from her nursing home. This is such a horrible disease; I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
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sorry to hear about your granny Michelle.
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