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I just took forever to finish it as I went to get lunch partway through. Oops!
I voted 'after sweating about it'. I think the only reason Ogedei and I ever had the guts to hook up is cus we chatted on the net for a while first. haha!
I voted 'after sweating about it'. I think the only reason Ogedei and I ever had the guts to hook up is cus we chatted on the net for a while first. haha!
I voted for that too only because I finally switched from answer C to answer B. Although if time spent is the most accurate reflection of what I should be, I should probably be answer C.
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I said C, too. There are times I've gotten through the sweating it out part, but I'd say that the times didn't outnumber the times I actually did.
I suppose I could be persuaded to change it to B. It could go either way depending on the situation.
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I picked the first one, but i'm actually somewhere between "easily ask" and "ask after sweating it out." I don't sweat, but I do need a few moments to get my head in the game.
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I invited my present boyfriend over for supper.. when I noticed he was "sort of shy" .. It will be 9 years on the 24th.. and we're both still very much in love.
I've always been "friends first" with the guys I went out with.. so I have no idea how I'd act with someone I don't know much.
but I definately think either the guy or gal can ask the other out.
In my 20s I would have done the same thing, but with alot less confidance.
I have zero problems asking girls I like out. Why? Because I don't treat it like a date. I treat it like two supercool people just hanging out. There's so much less pressure that way. AND they don't think you're "just trying to get some". I totally have them fooled
My problem is with approaching girls I don't know. Example: Sometime in September I was taking the bus home from school when I spotted this girl sitting up ahead. She was exactly my type (I'm not as superficial as this, I promise ) but I didn't want to just get up out of my seat and go talk to her, so I waited it out. We arrive at the bus depot and she breaks my heart by going to stand at a bus stop that isn't mine. Her stop is about ten feet away from the bus we just arrived in, so I had to make a quick decision.
I walked up to her and said 'Hey'.
She said hi.
I said, 'Do you go to Humber, I - I saw you on the bus'. At this point I half-turned around and pointed to the bus.
She said she goes there.
I came back with 'Oh ya, me too. What program are you in?'
We had an awkward conversation about her program and how much she likes it and what she wants to do in the future and blah blah blah.
Out of nervousness I scratching my arm - which wasn't itchy - readjusted the straps on my backpack - which were fine in the first place - occasionally looking around the parking lot. Not good.
I asked her about her schedule, specifically about her breaks between periods. She said her breaks were fine, and then went on to explain why. That was a huge relief for me, I thought I had bombed when she answered with 'my breaks are good' and then paused.
Then I came up with the ingenious (and highly original) 'Can I call you sometime, and we can get some lunch or something?'
I made a complete fool of myself with the conversation but I still could've revived myself. Here's what took that hope and crushed it: as I was asking for her number, my mouth twitched. The corner of my upper lip jumped. I don't know if she noticed it, she didn't stare at me or laugh or anything, but I felt that it was a pretty noticable twitch. Anyway I was so embarrassed by that I had to leave, so I said my bus was coming any minute and I should go wait at the stop. When I got to the other side of the lot where my stop was I turned my shoulder to her and didn't look over. I still haven't called her for that lunch.
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I have zero problems asking girls I like out. Why? Because I don't treat it like a date. I treat it like two supercool people just hanging out. There's so much less pressure that way. AND they don't think you're "just trying to get some". I totally have them fooled
My problem is with approaching girls I don't know. Example: Sometime in September I was taking the bus home from school when I spotted this girl sitting up ahead. She was exactly my type (I'm not as superficial as this, I promise ) but I didn't want to just get up out of my seat and go talk to her, so I waited it out. We arrive at the bus depot and she breaks my heart by going to stand at a bus stop that isn't mine. Her stop is about ten feet away from the bus we just arrived in, so I had to make a quick decision.
I walked up to her and said 'Hey'.
She said hi.
I said, 'Do you go to Humber, I - I saw you on the bus'. At this point I half-turned around and pointed to the bus.
She said she goes there.
I came back with 'Oh ya, me too. What program are you in?'
We had an awkward conversation about her program and how much she likes it and what she wants to do in the future and blah blah blah.
Out of nervousness I scratching my arm - which wasn't itchy - readjusted the straps on my backpack - which were fine in the first place - occasionally looking around the parking lot. Not good.
I asked her about her schedule, specifically about her breaks between periods. She said her breaks were fine, and then went on to explain why. That was a huge relief for me, I thought I had bombed when she answered with 'my breaks are good' and then paused.
Then I came up with the ingenious (and highly original) 'Can I call you sometime, and we can get some lunch or something?'
I made a complete fool of myself with the conversation but I still could've revived myself. Here's what took that hope and crushed it: as I was asking for her number, my mouth twitched. The corner of my upper lip jumped. I don't know if she noticed it, she didn't stare at me or laugh or anything, but I felt that it was a pretty noticable twitch. Anyway I was so embarrassed by that I had to leave, so I said my bus was coming any minute and I should go wait at the stop. When I got to the other side of the lot where my stop was I turned my shoulder to her and didn't look over. I still haven't called her for that lunch.
You get bumped down to B just for that.
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It's not a beer belly. It's a gas tank for a sex machine.
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And major action will certainly make you feel a bit uncomfortable, which is absolutely fine. You've gotta get excited about feeling uncomfortable, you've gotta love feeling slightly uncomfortable, because you know that you're stepping outside the boundaries that you used to create.
Zach Even-Esh
I've made some huge mistakes, but they were necessary, because without them I wouldn't have learned anything.
-Dave Tate
Well I figured it would be a fake number, and I didn't want to find out.
That just dropped me down to I, didn't it?
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And major action will certainly make you feel a bit uncomfortable, which is absolutely fine. You've gotta get excited about feeling uncomfortable, you've gotta love feeling slightly uncomfortable, because you know that you're stepping outside the boundaries that you used to create.
Zach Even-Esh
I've made some huge mistakes, but they were necessary, because without them I wouldn't have learned anything.
-Dave Tate
I suspect you would learn to operate without them. Consider the people with no hands, that live happilly and become clever about using their feet to operate things!
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) but I didn't want to just get up out of my seat and go talk to her, so I waited it out. We arrive at the bus depot and she breaks my heart by going to stand at a bus stop that isn't mine. Her stop is about ten feet away from the bus we just arrived in, so I had to make a quick decision. 
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