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[Razorback in OK]

Ever just wanted to start life over....I don't mean from birth, or even high school. I talking about just quiting your job, leaving everything behind, moving away to where no one knows you and start over.

I'm at that point today....ANOTHER terrible weekend with the wife (see http://forums.jpfitness.com/showthread.php?t=18572), and my job still SUCKS. Were talking three good days followed by 10 bad days for the past four months...no fun.

I'm just about to walk away from EVERYTHING and just start over....I guess I should just wait until this $&^%#*# season is over for the "family sake".......

Sorry.....end of rant

[chris_f]

about once a year, yes. Never do it... and I can't decide if that makes me braver or more of a wimp.

Sorry to hear about your troubles. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

[twinsavsvikingsfan]

I did it. In the past 5 years my relationship with my daughter's mom fell apart, my job sucked, I lived in a new state and knew very few people, was not getting to be a signifcant influence in my daughter's life, was hitting the bottle way too hard, was working a job for a company that was very unstable I hated anyway.

Throw in the fact I was nearly suicidal, broke (lived in my car for awhile), felt I had nothing to offer anyone, I was a mess.

Somehow, with some support from friends and pure will-power, I struggled through the tough stuff, got myself out of debt, saved some money, have become a better father (though I still am not around as much as I thnk I need to be- damn court system), quit work, started school to learn a skill that I enjoy and want to do. At the end of this week I'll have completed my associate's degree in just over a year and will be well onto my way to my bachelor's in accounting.

It's possible. I'm proof that you can totally redirect your life.

[rem1956]

Man, I need to redirect mine. Happy for you twinsavsvikingsfan. I wish I had your guts!

[Howard_Rourke]

Originally Posted by Razorback in OK

Ever just wanted to start life over....I don't mean from birth, or even high school. I talking about just quiting your job, leaving everything behind, moving away to where no one knows you and start over.

That's what I did last year. I moved from Detroit to Greenville, SC with no job, no house, no money...just a Chrysler 300M with a sleeping bag, microwave, laptop, small TV, radio and some clothes. I left my family in Michigan at my father-in-laws. I knew one person in Greenville - a housewife my realtor in Michigan dated in college. That's it. I was broke and broken down but I knew that Michigan offered no hope for a future.

I rented a house in a decent neighborhood with good schools (for when my wife and kids joined me). Four weeks later I had a job. My wife and kids came down to live in the rented house. It was a bitch the first year. I mean a bitch! No real money. No friends. No family. My wife was absolutely miserable. But over time things started getting better and better -- day by day.

Now it's 18 months later. I was just selected employee-of-the-year. We bought a house a few months ago. The kids are in even better schools. I have some debt left over that I'm starting to pay off but it was necessary to make the move. Things are looking a helluva lot better than they were 18 months ago. Things in Detroit still suck. Now I wake up every morning with hope. I have a smile on my face almost all the time. That's something I didn't have two years ago in Motown.

It takes balls but it is possible.

[GG300]

My story was not as drastic as some because I didn't lose my job or have to move but my life do over was the best thing that ever happened to me. Sometimes you just look at something and decide that it is not worth fixing and you have to start over. Hopefully it is just a bad run you are having and everything will workout for the best.