Hi all
Do you ever rate yourself? Like, from a scale of 1 to 10, give yourself a number that you seem fits you, your whole package?
I tend to do that. I always believe that its only you who can decide your own fate, and your own feelings. When I look in the mirror, I see a wonderful person. I constantly think however bad life can get, how many times I fall, i shall and will stand up again.
This is the problem that when I fall ( e.g-someone says that I am not a nice person, or I am not what I think i am) I take it rather seriously. I start to question what I truly am, and if that number I gave myself, i truly deserve. I hate the feeling of inadequacy so that's why i, on a normal day, were to rate myself a bit higher.
I took my last relationship, when it ended, rather badly so it took me time to recover. Its been about a year since I have seriously dated anyone and have been going on fine. I tried to block the need for a partner by telling myself that i need to focus on my career and my goals. Lately however, i have been noticing this girl in my college, and have been trying to get to know her, but nothing seems to be working. I tried to ask her out today for a drink, but she just shrugged it off. Now I feel rather crappy about everything. Is my fault thinking that I am better than I really am, or should I just go on with life feeling that i am average person, and everything about me is just average?
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This is an interesting topic. First of all, let me say this: it's best to be honest with yourself. If a person thinks badly of themself, they shouldn't go "I'm super awesome and super confident" because for the chronically insecure, self-esteem and self-respect is too heavy a weight to carry for any great length of time. It works the other way around as well; I don't think you should begin to think of yourself as average. If you can look in the mirror day after day and be proud of what you see, then you're being honest with yourself; there's no need to consider yourself average or below average and make your perception of yourself worse than what it is. Right now, what you need to do is solidify those feelings of self-worth so that they can't be taken from you so easily. You're presented with one obstacle wheras those with low self-esteem have a double burden - they have to regain their feeling of personal self-worth and then they have to stabilize those feelings. So... it wouldn't be good to revert to that stage. I had a similar problem a couple of years ago... I had a certain degree of confidence in myself and my thoughts, but it was shaken to a large degree very easily. I just tried to put a sort of mental shield up at the appropriate times so that I could minimize the effect, and eventually I began to improve. It was a slow process, sometimes so slow that it felt like no progress was being made, but after two years I think I've mostly gotten past it.
A lot of that was just general stuff, but if you still feel like I misinterpreted your post or your character at any time, I apologize. :)
To answer the main question, though... I generally feel pretty decent about myself these days, although I've never really attributed a numerical value to it. I supposed I'd give myself around a 7.
If you would truly rate yourself above perfect.......
'nuff said.
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Ok ok, the 11/10 is more of a feeling/mood I keep myself in. In all honesty, I guess i am a 5, but I rate myself a 7.5 I don't think I would like "5" to influence my daily life.
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Lately however, i have been noticing this girl in my college, and have been trying to get to know her, but nothing seems to be working. I tried to ask her out today for a drink, but she just shrugged it off. Now I feel rather crappy about everything. Is my fault thinking that I am better than I really am, or should I just go on with life feeling that i am average person, and everything about me is just average?
Made me think of a story on Paul Harvey's "REST" of the story I heard yesterday about a man who approached a beautiful actress that he was smitten with and asked her out. She blew him off. He tried again later and she "Laughed in his face" He told her not to laugh because she would be his wife someday. She laughed in his face on his third attempt as well. She married him 2 years later.
Being a 10 is all about choosing to be one. Make up your mind. Is she worth the effort? You can do anything you set your mind to and you know it when you are a 10. Feel better!
Oh...the story was about Richard and his wife Pat. (Nixon) I found it interesting.
Figure you got Jesus, me, and then mabey the Pope or some other wannabe prick like that.
LMAO!! How you recovering from that direct lightning bolt hit, Tony? :p
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Figure you got Jesus, me, and then mabey the Pope or some other wannabe prick like that.
Ahahahahaha. Hahaha. Thanks for that laugh.
Seriously, I have my downfalls like anyone else, but damnit, I tend to think a lady would be quite lucky to "pin me down." I don't beat woman, I have good morals and would never mistreat a woman. I might not be filthy rich, but she won't be on welfare with me either. I am a pretty caring guy and....
You know what, I take all that back.
I feel sorry for the woman that marrys me.
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I always believe that its only you who can decide your own fate, and your own feelings. When I look in the mirror, I see a wonderful person. I constantly think however bad life can get, how many times I fall, i shall and will stand up again.
But then this...
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This is the problem that when I fall ( e.g-someone says that I am not a nice person, or I am not what I think i am) I take it rather seriously. I start to question what I truly am, and if that number I gave myself, i truly deserve. I hate the feeling of inadequacy so that's why i, on a normal day, were to rate myself a bit higher.
You aren't controlling your own fate...you are letting others control it. You are letting what others say affect how you feel about yourself. I know it's hard not to let what others say affect you, as I used to be the exact same way as you. I think as I got older, I just learned not to give a crap what others thought about me. I have to be happy with who I am, and if others aren't, F-'em
I used to say there were three types of women. There were women who wanted me. There was my mother. And there were lesbians. Its amazing how many more lesbians there are in the world today!
I used to say there were three types of women. There were women who wanted me. There was my mother. And there were lesbians. Its amazing how many more lesbians there are in the world today!
In my world there's only lesbians. That's why I became one.
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How do you rate yourself?
so it doesn't work so well!! And I don't rate.
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