Had an argument with my wife (actually, she did all the yelling), then this morning she said that I should move out because "I don't love her"
She also said that I don't have the "capability" to be affectionate outside the bedroom. She been bitching all the time that we don't do anything together....."we use to go out all the time....when we were dating" "we would stay up late talking all the time....when we were dating" "....when we were dating" Hell, I think she rather be dating than being married!!!! And we go out to eat 3 times a week, weekend trips (just the two of us) every other month, our calendar is usually full with her Bunco, Massages, Nails, Cut & Color, meetings, parties, dinners, plays, etc.....not to mention she works 12 hour days!! I'm the one that does 98% of the cooking, cleaning, laundry.... I'm the one taking care of her late husbands’ pecan orchard...
Maybe I'm just burned out....haven't been camping in two years .......and my job SUCKS BIG TIME.
Then I get an e-mail from her just now -- forward of some junk mail -- and she puts at the bottom "Love you"
Oh well, we will see what happens....thanks for the ear....
Last edited by Razorback in OK : 08-21-2006 at 08:57 AM.
Man, I feel for you! Hang in there. If she says she loves you I'm sure she does. Maybe she just needs a real good....you know...long and slow....all night long.....
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Maybe you could show her the capabilities you have on the kitchen table...or better yet, in your camping tent!!! What if you put it in the peach orchards? Or, pull out your calendar where all your events are listed and tell her that you'll take her out any night she wants and let her pick. If that's really the issue, then Woohoo! you solved it. If not, then maybe you can peel away the bitching and get down to what's really bothering her.
Hang in there! Good marriages are hard work and it all starts with you!
BTW, our weekend was....Blah. We spent Friday night doing online Defensive Driving which I had to complete Saturday morning while Red took the kids for BFast and Chuck E Cheese.
Although we did have a date Saturday night!! Woohoo! Went to Body Worlds 3 at the museum and then to one of our favorite places to eat!
Sorry to hear about that Razor. Sounds a lot like my marriage... my ex had on these rose colored glasses that only let her see things the way she wanted them and not how they actually were. Only thing I can suggest is sit down with her and get to the root of what the problem really is - before she meets someone on the internet, takes your car leaving you no way to get around, you lose your job, nearly lose your house, and you end up roofing with your dad to pay the bills because unemployment benefits suck and won't even cover food for my dogs - ughhh, I could choke the life outa that bi... wait, sorry... forgot where I was for a second!
And since you asked, my weekend was pretty good... went clubbing Friday night, had a couple good workouts, and got my car running good as new!
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If I may throw in my 2 cents. When my fiance and I hit that point, I sat her down and told her that relationships change and evolve. That's the fun part, always staying on your toes. You get to know a different person. Sometimes you like them, sometimes you don't, but the honeymoon phase can't last forever. So we can either keep learning about each other, and enjoy the fact that we are comfortable enough around each other to say and do different things, or we need to go our own ways. It's not an easy conversation, but it helped and we are still together, happy as ever.
Sorry to hear about all that. I hope you can figure it out, I know the weight that that places on you!
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I recommend you take her out for a nice dinner, remind yourself and her what caught your eye about her above all other women and if she dances, take her dancing, with no expectation of sex.
if she dances, take her dancing, with no expectation of sex.
I dont think this is possible. Do not try
I would try talking to her, you know her alot better then anyone on here. Thing change over time, the fact she is working so much and you have a job your not happy with is going to cause tension no matter how good you guys have it imo.
My weekend?
Ill just give everyone some advice: long distance (or LD relationships as mentioned on another thread, hahaha) are much harder then you would expect. It doesnt even matter how much you trust each other etc, after a few days of not talking to them you almost get a little ancy (at least I do). I sometimes have to do things to keep my mind on other things.
Wow another sappy post by frank, I just lost 15lbs off my deadlift
Us women can get like that. My colleagues all complain about the same thing. We can be bitchy and selfish and ungrateful. Tell her how you feel, because she has no way of knowing if you don't. Best of luck
Hmmmmm.......your "discussion" sounds familiar. You know how I completely diffused the situation? I got out my calendar and asked her what day she'd like me to meet her for lunch. And, then I stuck by that "date" no matter what else tried to derail me. While I'm not suggesting you "put her on the spot", you must be delicate with how you come across so she doesn't feel or believe that she'll only get you to comply with her expectations through coercion. One thing she will notice VERY fast is how hectic her own schedule is, but she'll make some time, trust me. The next step is for you to approach her in a few days to about a week and propose a specific date as well.
Best of luck, bro! I hope it all works out. It has for me anyway.
Otherwise, my weekend had its ups and downs with headaches........par for the course!
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