I was surprised when I thought about this. It is about once in 6 months. Is it because life has become too comfortable and there is nothing I can complain about? or because I have no time to complain? Or because my level of patience and my ability to deal with unwanted circumstances have improved?
What I mean is, does swearing at a bad driver then 2 seconds later being calm again count? Or just that anger that steams you up for minutes or even hours?
Ben, it counts if you are upset and you screamed. It does not count, if you were not upset but just wanted to let the driver know that you were upset. You can have a visible display of anger without actually getting angry or upset.
Count only the ones that really got you heated up. Don't count the ones that got you heated but you chose to calm down instead of reacting unfavourably.
I went with don't remember the last time cause i've only been really angry a few times in my life. I have like a black anger. The kind that snaps and kills everyone i'm told. I guess its a good thing i'm way down in kangaroo land.
Although i seem to get depressed about every 18months. Which is kinda weird but nothing big.
Hm... Is it bad to be angry at least once a day on average? I don't think you can be an entrepreneur without having to kick some ass each day. Not my clients, mind you. Things like insurance companies fill me with such rage that it is better for their own good that they are anonymous. Don't go into the fitness industry if you don't like giving ridiculously high amounts of your money to those extortionists!
Bad drivers regularly put me in a "tizzy" (as they say in Arkansas). I wonder how half of those idiots even got licenses!
Kids are constantly trying one's patience too. When one of them comes crying because the other bit them, or someone drops their food on the floor that they weren't even supposed to be carrying for any reason, I can get a little mad.
There needs to be another option for "more than once a day".
I don't know JP, I sorta had the same thought, although I do not run my own business I often get frustrated at customers and management at the current job. I don't get pissed off everyday, somedays I certainly do. Most days I get a little perturbed at least. Def needs to be something between once a day and once a month.
Work is the only thing that really ellicits this response from me these days, I will be glad when it is behind me.
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Angry often gets wrongly applied to irked, frustrated and upset.
Angry means you're on the point of losing control in my book.
(Rage means you just lost it!)
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I would say once a month..maybe. It used to be a LOT more, and I would then get depressed at the end of the day because that anger would be taken out on my son..every day. After a looooong time of trying other things and putting off medication, I finally broke down and started taking Lexapro...my wonder drug. It definitely transformed me, and my son and I get along so much better.
Being under a lot of stress doesnt help. But i know if i get angry i could loose my job. And that is something i dont want to do.
I just get to the point of breaking down once a month and thats when i go out to eat by myself and hide out at pinnacle mtn for 2 hrs... Sit back and think jeez this is stupid and then make it through another month.
I rarely get "screaming mad" angry so I only said "once every 6 months". However, I get "irked" much more often .... poor service, kids nit-picking at each other, unreasonable people, inconsiderate/moronic drivers .... things like that. That sort of thing rarely gets my blood boiling though - more just irritated.
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I chose "everyday." But, it's usually anger at myself. I rarely yell at or about anyone else.
For instance, I'm doing laundry, right now. The buzzer just told me that the load of darks is done. On the way to move them to the dryer, I notice my blue shirt on the ground. That was the whole reason for that load! I wanted THAT shirt to be clean. "SON OF A BITCH!"
I get angry all the time. It's a service I provide the world to let it know how stupid and unfair it is. Damned cortsol levels.
And yet another reason you owe the Clubhouse guys a drink in LR.
J/K, bro.
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I had to call customer service so I'm too pissed off right now to think about voting
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If you count screaming and possibly belligerent, then I've never been angry in my life. Which is good, since I know that I've got an awful mean streak in me. I'm thankful every day that it got buried pretty deep though.
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Not very often, I keep a lot of control over my temper. As a kid I had a frightful temper, would almost black out and come to after having flown into a rage. So since about age 10 I've never really let it go unless pretty drunk and something happens.
About 10 years ago I read the book How to stop worrying and start living by Dale Carnegie. The basic lesson was if you're worried, ask yourself if theres something you can do about it. If there is, do it. If there isnt, stop worrying because it doesnt do you any good. I apply that lesson to most negative emotions now. Sure I could steam away and get all upset at stuff, but in reality all thats done is put me in a bad mood and ruined a good day, so unless its extreme circumstances I just let it go. Like bad drivers, if they do something sudden that gives me a shock I might swear a bit or honk the horn, but if they're just slow/bad driver something like that, I just back off to give them room and stay relaxed. Not going to ruin my day because of something like that.
On the other hand, I'm no saint. Probably the main thing that will get me angry is poor service. Being left on hold for 15 minutes will get me riled up, being bugged by salespeople will get me to leave their shop, stuff like that. Generally the more stressed I am the easier it comes out. If I'm in a good mood and relaxed it takes a lot to get me angry.
I chose everyday, but it's really more like once or twice a week. I think it's healthy to get angry every now and then - you have to blow steam off sometimes. Keeping it in can be very bad stuff. Plus, you can be angry and not be a dick.
I wish I read the thread first. I put Every day. But as Ruma put it, venting doesn't really count. I took anger management last year. I've always had a short "Fuse" but it got to the point where I was going to do damage, either to something or someone. I'm proud to say that I have never hit anyone out of anger. A few people I know with lesser tempers cannot say the same.
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I get angry all the time about how idiotic some people are. For example, I cuss a lot. It's just something I do, I guess it's a part of being from my family and also the greater NYC area. Anyway, people take this as being "mean", which is just stupid. They also take my sarcasm for being "mean", what ever the f--k that means. It's funny though, because within like 5 minutes of me being angry/pissed off I'm fine again. If not, there's always the heavy bag in my house...
most people tell me i never get angry, to the point that sometimes it makes them angry. so i put once a month, because im sure i make people angry atleast that often =-p
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I wish I could edit this poll to add, more than once a day/hourly (on popular demand ). Sadly, I cannot edit the poll.
One trend I noticed, 4 women voted (Mary-Kaa, Tracy, Cherihan, Me) and all voted ( I guess I am interpretating Mary-Kaa's response correctly) in a way that suggests they get angry less often than Men. Well, the number of female voters are much less than the male so that needs to be kept in mind, so my conclusion may not be a correct representation of the general female population.
Ha ha .. faraz that is hilarious. If I were you I would put "Do not remember the last time"
When my husband is driving, he gets irritated so often, either at people who jump red or at people who are on his way or at people who flashes high beam from behind. Let me not comment on the traffic in India So it's easy to loose patience and I did that for quite sometime and realised it gets me nowhere. And as Ben pointed out, I end up being in mad mood. So I have stopped. If the other person wishes to overtake me from the wrong side, or wishes to cross my road when it is red for him and green for me, I just stop and let him go.
And I have mastered the art of showing I am angry when I am actually not, to perfection. My husband thinks I am angry all the time
I'm an every day'er. TYPICALLY I'm a delayed onset anger person. I'll get hit with something and then stew about it for an hour or two and then get real pissy. Every so often I'll shout in traffic or at the tv (or more recently computer) or something.
IMO women live closer and think more on an emotional level than men so they stay a little more elevated on the whole "meter thing". they try to figure things out and learn reasons and sling\recieve barbs on a super regular basis.
men are typically at piece in the world and if someone does something rude then they did it on purpose or they're a stupid jackass, either way they need to be smacked. we get over that and go back to being one with the universe.
I put once in 6 months, though I think this is something that's hard for a person to decide about themselves, having no way to judge their level of anger as compared to the norm.
It may be even less, based on your qualification that you have to act out on your anger in some way for it to be included.
Anger is a new thing for me, actually. I'm learning about how useful it can be. I used to be a primarilly "Oh something bad happened I guess I will get sad and worry about it for a long time." Now I'm trying to use the "Grr that sucked" energy to affect change. I still spend too much time stewing though.
I can vividly remember the first time I acted entirely on a lost temper. I broke a calculator because it was giving me didn't make sense and I was under pressure. Stuck my thumbs right through it. It was such an alien sensation to me to act in this destructive manner that I swear I sat there dumb for about 15 minutes.
I would agree with Ruma that women tend to get angry less often? Just from observation. But perhaps we're more likely to be the stewing sort like I am, and I'm not sure that's a productive response. Who knows? Might be interesting to find out if anyone's done a study on it. I suspect there are a few out there. Also, making such a broad generalization is begging to be shot down.
The guy I share an office with gets mad a lot. He's a siamese fighting fish though so I suppose I forgive him.
Well, I picked the 6 month option, but I probably throw a fit about once a month. Occassionally more often, but certainly not daily. Take stuff in stride.
Stupid a****d polls dumb Mo fo quizzes telling me as a result I need mo fo'ing anger management . Think they are so smart they think they know who I am. Grrrrrrrrrrrr makes me wanna smack s**t out of my screen!!!!!!!!!
Ahhhhh serenity................ no not very often but I have to vent every once in a while
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OK I voted once amonth usually at somebody doing something stupid that is hurtful to someone else. I think that its mostly drunk ppl too, hmm like ppl that drive drunk and plow into some poor person that was just going to work or the store. That just burns my ass! Other than that I think of it this way everyone is human and we make mistakes, irritate each other, and such. I'm far from perfect and I can accept that everyone has a reason for what they do, who am I to judge.
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