No, not for me. For my story. As a sidebar to a story in journalism class (common weight room misconceptions/myths), I am doing a list of funny etiquette rules. This is where I need your opinions, especially the females in the group.
A) Is it appropriate to be hit on at the gym? Why or why not?
B) If it isn't appropriate, is it because you have not been hit on by the right person? I know for a fact that if Marisa Miller came up to me while I was squatting and asked me out I woud drop the barbell and ask what place and what time.
Thoughts?
Thanks.
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What is the definition of "hit on?" If you're talking about classic pick-up lines, then I'd say no. If you're talking about meeting people of the opposite sex in whom you have an interest, then I'd say yes. The difference is in the approach. In my younger days, I was successful on several occassions in meeting women in the gym and asking them out. I found the best way to approach them was, "Can I get a spot?" Generally they'd laugh at a 6'6", 270 lb. guy asking little old them for a spot. Then they'd be flattered by the request. Conversation would ensue, yada, yada, yada. "How about dinner? I know a great place to get a healthy meal." Success!
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I found the best way to approach them was, "Can I get a spot?" Generally they'd laugh at a 6'6", 270 lb. guy asking little old them for a spot. Then they'd be flattered by the request. Conversation would ensue, yada, yada, yada. "How about dinner? I know a great place to get a healthy meal." Success!
That's BRILLIANT!
Nick, I'd say that I agree 100% with Howie. Pick up lines? no. People are trying to work out.
Legitimate interest? Absolutely! You never know where you'll meet the love of your life. It just needs to be done tastefully and non-intrusively. People are trying to workout, after all!
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come on, breathing heavy, groaning and sweating...if that's not time for a little "why hello there, that's the most impressive snatch I've seen" then I don't know what is.
headphones, no talky
no headphones, why not? like mr rourke, you've already hit common ground. building on my first paragraph, this is probibly as close to naked as you're likely to see someone outside of the beach...that works in both directions for that initial "wow look at x".
in all, same rules apply as any other time. I'd feel more comfortable there than the grocery store (which I've heard was a big thing). only thing to keep in mind is she\he is likely wanted to do their thing and get the heck out, so it might be best as a build up over a couple of meetings kind of thing.
''only thing to keep in mind is she\he is likely wanted to do their thing and get the heck out, so it might be best as a build up over a couple of meetings kind of thing."
The only problem with that is that there's no guarantee you'll ever see that person there again. Strike while the iron's hot!
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On the one hand:
Presumably a person you meet at the gym would be better than a person you meet at a bar or anything like that. At least they're trying to get healthy!
One of my coworkers actually married a guy she met at the gym. However, they moved from gym to personal in a fairly slow fashion so as to not ruin their workout if it didn't end up being successful. From what I can recall of the story they started doing other activities together on a fitness level, like cycling and jogging, and moved on from there.
On the Other hand:
Seriously, there's nothing more creepy than those guys at the gym who try to make some sort of move, are turned down, and then you have to complete your workout in their presence. When trying to dissuade someone from a romantic or sexual interest in you, it just seems wrong to be sweating and out of breath in front of them.
So my conclusion would be go for it, but don't make your overture mid workout.
Ugh. Creepy gym guys. Thanks for bringing that up. :P
Shannon, there's definately a right way and wrong way to do the approach - in the gym or elsewhere!
Too many guys come on really strong, like they have something to prove, like they're just begging for you to go out with them. You can usually tell in an instant if you have chemistry with someone or not. People to need to accept that and not force anything, or come across like they need to win your approval.
Say hi, see if a convo starts, and if not, well... it's the other person's loss anyways! :p
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So far I agree with the guys. There is definately a right and wrong way to do it. I wouldn't mind it(never happens though!!) but the guys that are leering and vulgur are creepy, don't stare just say something, staring just creeps me out. But what about the guys do you want to be hit on at the gym??
So far I agree with the guys. There is definately a right and wrong way to do it. I wouldn't mind it(never happens though!!) but the guys that are leering and vulgur are creepy, don't stare just say something, staring just creeps me out. But what about the guys do you want to be hit on at the gym??
Jenn, I'd ask you for a spot anyday.
Also, based on your comment's and Shannon's, it appears you have some real psychos hanging around the gyms in the Great White North.
Would I want to be hit on at the gym? I always have time for flirting. It would certainly brighten my day, although it rarely happens.
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Thanks Howie Mental note taken- guys always seem so into what they are doing unless some young half naked blonde walks by lol, but I guess I'd better start trying!! Yup lots of creeps out here- I have been stared at and then had some comment about my ass, and low squats wink wink. It like screw off before I beat you mr. smooth!! thats the wrong way to do it!!
come on, breathing heavy, groaning and sweating...if that's not time for a little "why hello there, that's the most impressive snatch I've seen" then I don't know what is.
Pullling her headphones off and licking her ear worked for me.
Seriously, though . . . I'm serious.
Really, seriously, in general, I'd agree with the not hitting on, but introducing or chatting up at the right time being OK. But maybe it depends on the circumstances. Perhaps, in rare instances, one can be bold. But one wouldn't want to be a sleazy gym-wolf of some sort. It's not a singles bar.
I have to say ask for it or not, we're all there to get healthier , look better so to have someone as lovely as JENN hit or least take a peek my way would be nice and make me feel like worth the while in the gym.
I have to say ask for it or not, we're all there to get healthier , look better so to have someone as lovely as JENN hit or least take a peek my way would be nice and make me feel like worth the while in the gym.
What a suck up! How about hitting on in a forum?:p
Just kidding!
My, Jenn, you're just the darling around here, aren't you?
Jenn looks like you are building a stalker club um I mean fan club. Can I join?? I promise not to freak you out to much. I will be the one in the jogging suite behind the oak tree in the bushes beside Troy. I will have the camera he will be the one with the duct tape.
Sound a little lonely over there in West Virginia man.
A) Is it appropriate to be hit on at the gym? Why or why not?
I, personally, don't think it's appropriate. I feel gross, I'm self conscious, and as it is i screw up at the gym- I don't need added pressure to look like I know what I'm doing b/c a cute guy is standing in front of me
B) If it isn't appropriate, is it because you have not been hit on by the right person? I know for a fact that if Marisa Miller came up to me while I was squatting and asked me out I woud drop the barbell and ask what place and what time.
No- I don't care who you are I really feel gross at the gym, I'm working on areas of my body that I'm not comfortable with, I'm sweaty and gross, I'm self conscious and I move slowly and deliberatly. I'd rather that other people just leave me alone. I don't even like working out with friends. I'm still so new to the gym that I'd rather people don't even look at me cause that will distract me and I need to focus or risk hurting myself (again).
I know that some people are ok with it- even welcome it but I really don't. I still can't get over the amount of women at the gym with foundation, lipstick and their hair done just right. I keep my headsets on and just focus on what I'm doing.
jen> are we not supposed to stare at you like dead on or in the mirrors? I've found you can stare at girls in the mirror like for 10min at a time and they never notice\get creeped out.
When..
While I am not working out. While I am between sets or waiting to get a machine. I was once approached by a guy while I was on a treadmill. I was sweating, short of breath and this guy had the nerves to walk up to me to ask me for dinner. What a freak. Well, I have a one liner for them.. I am married
How..
There is this other kind who take it slow. First checks if you have sometime to talk, starts a decent conversation, gets you comfortable, finds out if you are a regular at that gym. And all this he will do without dropping you a hint that he is really after your phone number. I was approached by one such guy while in Jacuzzi. I was impressed but for him as well I had my age old one liner.. I am married
come on, breathing heavy, groaning and sweating...if that's not time for a little "why hello there, that's the most impressive snatch I've seen" then I don't know what is.
OMG you is getting funnier are you on helium or something! nearly fell off my chair laughing.
heck getting hit on at the gym and hitting on is obligatory! One of the perks of membership
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A) Is it appropriate to be hit on at the gym? Why or why not?
I, personally, don't think it's appropriate. I feel gross, I'm self conscious, and as it is i screw up at the gym- I don't need added pressure to look like I know what I'm doing b/c a cute guy is standing in front of me
hey how you doing Java well I think ya looks cute and am sure ya get admiring glances
so be flattered they obviously dont see what you see as being bad at all, which is very often the case
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