Can anyone tell me where I can find, if available, some software to recover deleted files. I would like to maybe recover my daughters' chat logs. I know it sounds kind of "Big Brother", but I don't think she is being totally honest about whom she is chatting with. We have just gone through a spell of "issues" with her, and things are better, but she is leaving some things out.
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Yeah that does sound big brother ish, imagine spying on your own kid, keeping tabs on her. I mean how dare you.
Oh wait, that's your frickin' JOB!
Seriously, when she finds out you did I am sure she'll hit the roof about invading her privacy and all that, but the problem with society today is people don't keep an eye on their kids, they don't take responsibility for them. I think it's great you are.
I would personally rather have her hit the ceiling because I invaded her privacy, than meet some 40yo creep in a seedy motel room.
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Have a lynksys router. both comps are in the same room, and are hooked up to the router. We can both surf at the same time, but as I said, we can't network without configuring. I don't want to do it at the moment. The computer she uses is actully my wifes.' Thanks OG. I don't think I would actually use it, but if she knew we could, she might be a bit more honest. The last few months have been tearing down trust and building it back up again on both our parts, but she is starting to relapse a bit, blocked phone no's, etc. she has come a long way, but she is still capable of making some really bad choices. She is pretty obvious about it, that even some of her teachers have commented on it. She as at the preverbial fork in the road, and we don't want her to take the wrong "Tine".
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I feel I should stick up for all teenagers here and say "don't spy on your daughter". I recommend talking to her. Maybe you've been going about it the wrong way, does it always end in a fight? If yes then you have definitely been going about it the wrong way. Every kid is different, but most kids will talk if you just know how to talk to them, or how to listen I guess. Granted she is probably the most stubborn/ignorant person you know of right now (especially when questioned on things like chatrooms, etc.), but I think invading your child's privacy should be an absolute last resort.
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Originally posted by OtherOldguy: The 411. I tried networking, but it says in the routers' manual that Would have to use one as the "Host" comp. and then do a different wiring config.
Let me correct myself. The fact that your computers are connected to the router means that they are "on the network", not "networked together".
INTERNET---CABLE MODEM---CABLE MODEM ROUTER---YOUR TWO PCS
quote:Originally posted by OtherOldguy: The 411. I tried networking, but it says in the routers' manual that Would have to use one as the "Host" comp. and then do a different wiring config.
Let me correct myself. The fact that your computers are connected to the router means that they are "on the network", not "networked together".
INTERNET---CABLE MODEM---CABLE MODEM ROUTER---YOUR TWO PCS [/quote]That's it! I mean to say that our comps can't work with each other (printers, etc.)I know it can be done, I'm just lazy! It's just really the chat logs I'd like to get to, or threaten to. (Yes Matt, I hear ya!)
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You're not spying...you're being a responsible parent. Your daughter wouldn't be the first kid in the world to be selective about what she told her parents [img]smile.gif[/img]
My friend has used alot of things that sound simular to what you're trying to do. I'll ask him come wed, what he would reccomend.
Originally posted by mAtThEw: I feel I should stick up for all teenagers here and say "don't spy on your daughter". I recommend talking to her. Maybe you've been going about it the wrong way, does it always end in a fight? If yes then you have definitely been going about it the wrong way. Every kid is different, but most kids will talk if you just know how to talk to them, or how to listen I guess. Granted she is probably the most stubborn/ignorant person you know of right now (especially when questioned on things like chatrooms, etc.), but I think invading your child's privacy should be an absolute last resort.
Thanks for the input Matt. But there is a history to the chat logs. 2 years ago when she was all of 12, we saw some of her chats. There is erotic literature out there that isn't as good! I spoke with her about it and she was totally embarassed.
These days it is more of the people she chats with. Last October, a boy with whom she was about to start dating, was caught with dope at the school, and expelled, she was hauled down to the office, as were others, and we got the phone call. She swears she didn't do any and we believe(d) her. Another boy, a friend of the same boy. Was thrown out a week later for threatening someone he thought "Ratted" them out. This past Feb, a parent of one of her girlfriends found some notes they had all written. When our daughter found out she confessed to popping pills to us. We told her that it was wrong, and extremely dangerous, but didn't punish her, other than telling her she would be under a lot more scrutiny. I could go on, but you guys have better things to do! We are both in counselling for different things, but we have gone together, so, to answer your question, Matt, yes we do talk, she has told me things that I don't think any 14 Y.O girl would ever tell her father. We talk fairly openly about sex, and are comfortable doing so, although, I do hide my normal fears.
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Oh jeeze. I didn't know it was like that, sorry. When I suggested talking to her, I wasn't implying that you don't, or can't, it was just a generalization that most parents don't/can't. I didn't know that drugs were involved, I just assumed it was about some guy she met in a chatroom or something to that nature. If drugs or sex are involved, you've already tried talking to her and you still think something may be going on, then definitely keep an eye on her. That's way too young to be given that kind of freedom. Anyway I'll stop talking now, best of luck to you.
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Don't stop talking Matt. As bad as it got, her and I never stopped talking. That was just a bit of rant before. By her own admission, she knows I am well aware of a lot of what's going on with her. But I still respect her prvacy, so that she can grow.
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Do what you need to do to safeguard your kids. End result is they may think they are wise to the ways of the world, but they aren't their big 14 or so years on the planet are nothing compared to the life expriences an adult carries with them.
Anyway to the matter at hand. How computer savy is your daughter? Could you just set up a peer-peer network with file sharing behind your firewall and set up a hidden share on her machine? Or heck if you wanna be super controlling, set stuff up as a domain and make her log into the domain to get access to the Internet. Being Domain admin should give you the power to see what you want.
Og.
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Thanks for the info OG, but I'M not that computer savvy. She'd know if I could. Anyway last night we discovered that we can see the screen names of her chat buddies through the spyware. Each time she finishes, we make her run a scan, 'cause everytime she's on the comp, she downloads something that slows down the machine. Like I said earlier, I don't want to read her chats so much as would like to know who she is chatting with. This way we can ask her who is so- and- so.
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