let's say someone has stolen some stuff from you and you can't prove it. I would probably beat him up (17y old, it hasn't got much consequences). But what should I do when it is a girl?
I'm can't believe I'm asking this, but I'm pretty pissed off.
I'm of the opinion--from much personal experience--that yes, women should be given the benefit of the doubt and not subjected to physical violence... to a point. Women are quite capable of taking advantage of this condition, and when a certain point is reached, I strongly believe that the gender division goes away, and it becomes a free-for-all. In your situation, though, man or woman, you say you can't prove anything. Bide your time, see if you can dig something up, and if so, great. If not, write it off as a loss on your 2005 tax return [img]smile.gif[/img]
Seduce her & get her naked, get pics, then trade the pics for your stuff
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Well, in my book a woman can't be touched unless she is about to physically hurt someone (including you).
I'd say confront her directly. Get right up in front of her and ask if she took your stuff. There's nothing wrong with intimidation if she's actually stealing.
Originally posted by igunick: let's say someone has stolen some stuff from you and you can't prove it.
This begs the question - are you 100% sure this person is the thief? But, my 2 cents - violence doesn't do anything for you here. Unless you can prove it, put it - and them - behind you.
GENERALLY speaking, I'm not big on fighting reguardless of the situation. It rarely solves anything...best case it makes you feel better. Worse case, someone really gets hurt. What's the point?
Bottom line...you're shit out of luck. Don't trust her with your stuff again.
Direct confrontation... I would demand that she return what she stole. If she doesn't, call her parents and have a discussion with them about their daughter's cleptomania, as a concerned friend. The only thing most people are REALLY afraid of its their parents!
Originally posted by kuri: Seduce her & get her naked, get pics, then trade the pics for your stuff
Bingo. (Or don't seduce her; just play papparazzi!)
In any case, I don't equate property with violence. If it's stuff, deal with it through the police or courts. I wouldn't want to deal with all of the implications of assaulting someone because of stuff, even if I really wanted to or if he person seemed to deserve it or be asking for it/tempting it. The consequences falling back on me in terms of family, penal system and reputation would be devastating. (Unless I could kill him and make him disappear. [img]tongue.gif[/img] )
Originally posted by Jean-Paul: Direct confrontation... I would demand that she return what she stole. If she doesn't, call her parents and have a discussion with them about their daughter's cleptomania, as a concerned friend. The only thing most people are REALLY afraid of its their parents!
And JP is on the right track. Verbal and situation assertiveness/directness can be very effective. Be smarter than her, not more violent.
Can't believe nobody told you to poop in her gym bag!?!?!??!
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