Most of us, at one time or another want to try something new. I am talking about major changes in our lives. It might be a new career. It could be a relocation. It might be a change in a relationship.
Sometimes we want this change so bad we can see it. We can taste and smell the change. It is so real to us. It still seems to be out of our grasp.
We may not be happy in our present state, but we are afraid of change. We know what it feels like to be where we are. Tio change is to take a risk. Things may not change the way we visualize them. It may not be perfect and we may screw up our dream and lose what we have. The truth is that if we stay where we are, if we are not happy, we will eventually lose what we have anyway.
We need to figure out what we can really do. We need to map out a doable plan. Then we need to take the first steps. Even if it doesn't turn out prefectly, if may be better than what we have.
I'm in the process of doing that right now. Change in jobs within the same company. I'm ready for a change, this current job has run it's course - I know it, my boss knows it. Still tough though. I've got a great opportunity with a lot of room for growth. But I'm still nervous. My wife wants to know why I'm not more excited about it. I don't know what to tell her because I don't know myself.
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There are three things in my life which I really love: God, my family, and baseball. The only problem - once baseball season starts, I change the order around a bit. ~Al Gallagher, 1971
Timely post. Going through that right now in the relationship department. Couldn't've asked for a better person to date, but I just couldn't get comfortable (as has been the case at some point with just about every relationship I've had) and was ultimately very unhappy (for no apparent reason). Therefore, I broke it off and resolved to not date again until I'm at least 30. Maybe by then I'll have figured out what the f--- is going on with me It's certainly a risk because I may not find someone equal or better, but it's a risk I have to take for my own happiness and sanity. I'm not a confrontational person, and there was a lot of confrontation going on, meaning I wasn't happy. Am I happy now? Certainly not, but at least there's no conflict.
There's always beer...
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I know you're just kidding, hopefully, but beer certainly isn't the answer.
You're right, you have to figure yourself out first and foremost before you can open up to anyone else. When that person comes along, it'll seem easy. You won't have to try hardly at all. It'll just "feel" right. Trust me, it'll happen. I wouldn't tie yourself down to an actual time, like when you're 30, you may miss someone coming along before then. Because when you least expect it, it'll happen.
"In one instant the worse thing that ever happened to me, suddenly became the best thing that ever happened to me. Wierd."
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There are three things in my life which I really love: God, my family, and baseball. The only problem - once baseball season starts, I change the order around a bit. ~Al Gallagher, 1971
I know you're just kidding, hopefully, but beer certainly isn't the answer.
You're right, you have to figure yourself out first and foremost before you can open up to anyone else. When that person comes along, it'll seem easy. You won't have to try hardly at all. It'll just "feel" right. Trust me, it'll happen. I wouldn't tie yourself down to an actual time, like when you're 30, you may miss someone coming along before then. Because when you least expect it, it'll happen.
"In one instant the worse thing that ever happened to me, suddenly became the best thing that ever happened to me. Wierd."
Well, yeah, I don't mean to say alcohol is a problem-solver, but I've found that the more I know about women, the more I like beer Nah, go have one or two nights of get-over-it sloppy drunkeness and be done with it. I agree with the perceived ease of a relationship. I keep hearing that you have to work and work hard at them, and sure, maybe that's true in the long run, but if it feels like a real chore for an extended period of time early on, something ain't right. As for the 30 thing, I did set one caveat: no dating anyone NEW, meaning exes are fair game Not that I'd expect that to happen, but there's something to be said for test driving. And no, I won't completely shut people out, but it'll have to be easy (by your context, not the usual context)
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I am going through some changes too. I just graduated college in December 2006 and moved to a placed I had never lived before. I didn't and still don't like the industry I am working in (oil and gas). I disagree with so many things that go on this industry, but that is another story.
I am currently planning on leaving after I have been there a year. I want to move to an area I have lived closed to before and really liked.
I think change is scary sometimes, but it can be very exciting some times. Sometimes it's even necessary to get where you want to be in life. I think to an extent that you have to plan to have changes made by a relative date. Too many times I've seen people wait for things to come to them and those things just never came. So I am planning tentatively on this move, but it will definitely happen sometime next year. If I haven't found a job and still move, it will definitely be scare, but it will be a necessary if I am to be happy.
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Not that I'd expect that to happen, but there's something to be said for test driving. And no, I won't completely shut people out, but it'll have to be easy (by your context, not the usual context) 
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