Sometimes what we say dosen't get through to people right away.. but maybe by more than one person saying the same over a period of time.. or with other experiences.. it does make a difference..
Talking to depressed people is sometimes like trying to educate adolescents.. we think it goes in one ear and comes out the other.. but a few years later.. when they are around 22-23.. we realized that alot of what we said had rubbed off on them.
At least I hope that's how it is
The lady I was referring to hasn't said a negative thing since so maybe it did get through to her. Next time I see her I am going to ask her how she is doing. I was depressed a lot when I was younger 8-13. I was stuck at my parents house with an abusive father. It nearly drove me to sucide. I am glad I had to guts to walk out the door and not go back until I had my life straighten out. It would have drove me nuts. For the longest time I didn't want to listen to anything anybody had to tell me. At least I thought I wasn't listening. I have actually repeated word for word a couple of the things my step mom used to tell me. It is kinda of funny how things turn out.
I mostly started to remember things I was told in adolescence and childhood around when I was 28.. Gave a hard time to my mother for a long time..
She passed away 10 years ago.. I still miss her.. wrote a couple of things about her.. but should write more.. (they're better in french.. but I translated them so here they are in english) Véronique
BFG yup.. I wish I had met my grandfather.. but I'm sure Siberia (and by ricochet the Québec far north) always attrackted me because of what he had gone through... humm back in topic with that.. motivation..
Motivation seems to be a topic on every fitness forum, including the one me and Milko moderate for Spidersport. It seems like there are two types of people: the ever motivated ones (like me) and the ones that feed off the former through following their lead.
Two things motivate me:
1. The fact that I am a genetic munchkin and want to prove that women like me can do it, even if takes forever, just because I am stubborn like that.
2. The fact that hundreds of people look up to me for what I have accomplished and seek advice and giudance. As a parsonal trainer and diet coach I must show that I can do it. If I can't there is no way those people will believe that they can.
I also proved my doctors wrong who told me never to lift weights if I want to use my shoulders. This has been the oly way I was able to get rid of physio and dress on my own in the mornings. Yes, I have pain sometimes, but nothing compared to the debilitationg months of pain as an undernourished ballerina and teenager.
Whatever makes you tick, you can find it. I think waking up and choosing health over convenience is a virtue that few manage to cultivate but once you have it, you have it for life.
Motivation seems to be a topic on every fitness forum, including the one me and Milko moderate for Spidersport. It seems like there are two types of people: the ever motivated ones (like me) and the ones that feed off the former through following their lead.
Two things motivate me:
1. The fact that I am a genetic munchkin and want to prove that women like me can do it, even if takes forever, just because I am stubborn like that.
2. The fact that hundreds of people look up to me for what I have accomplished and seek advice and giudance. As a parsonal trainer and diet coach I must show that I can do it. If I can't there is no way those people will believe that they can.
totaly agree Galya and thats what makes me motor as well! I cant fail as I have to achieve as others are watching me for there inspiration, even the ones that want me to fail at first then email me later on to say wow they are now inspired and made a change (and that aint blowing my own trumpet) I find that the negative comments are there way of putting an obstacle up to justify their reasons for not achieving and once you show them it can be done in a way that is simple and easy to understand then they also achieve. Funny enough two people I speak to all the while now were just like that and they are now motivating others to succeed. Talk about satisfying
Glad to hear that your health and abilities are improving and that you are proving them wrong
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"The time for talking has passed, actions are speaking louder than words."
Wow it looks like all of us have faced some pretty tall obstacles and are on the way over them. The hardest part for me was not listening to my doctor when they told me not to lift weights and exercises. I told them that is who I am and I don't know what I would do if I couldn't exercises. They looked at me like !! You would think I had a big F**K YOU tattooed on my forehead for some of the looks I got. I am surprised the didn't ask me why the hell I bothered coming to see them if I wasn't going to follow there advice. I am glad they didn't because I wouldn't have a doctor at the moment!!
My main motivator is my mental health. I stay at home with two small children (3 years and 9 months) and without my hour and a half time at our Y I am a impatient B**CH. Just recently, I decided that I was yelling too much and needed to get back in the gym 5 days a week. I am going to take Adam Campbell's advice and see if running won't help me with "the kind of smart that leads to faster and more accurate decision making, yields greater productivity."
I have begun to copy people who have qualities I want. I was depressed a long time and have begun to come out of it. Part of the things that help me sound silly. I get up in the morning and try to force myself to be anxious to start my day. I am trying to look at problems as things that can be solved if I put my mind to it rather than as obstacles. I have begun to look for models for business and fitness. I don't know if it will work but I'm going to focus on it.
That's a good question. I hadn't thought about it much really.
But now that you ask...I was always the skinny kid in school.
I had 2 BIG (big big huge) brothers...was always the youngest and smallest at home. Always.
I never got picked for the team. (too scrawny)
My best friend (the athlete) laughed at me when I tried to play on the basketball team.
So...I wanna be a friggin force to be reckoned with.
I want to bench twice my weight and squat 3 times my weight.
When the kid's tongues are hanging out - I want to be the one still running and jumping and climbing.
I like it when my son tells his friends that I'm the strongest person he knows.
Oh...and I hear that after 40 your strength steadily decreases every year...well screw that. I want to be stronger and bigger at 60 than I am right now. I want to prove that to be bullshit.
I dunno...maybe I'm a little intense about it...
Other than that...I'm just a happy go lucky guy who likes to lift stuff.
I never want to be the skinny bastard I used to be.
I'm tired of sitting on my ass behind this computer all day.
I know how much improving myself physically has carried over mentally, and I would like to help other people feel better about themselves.
My motivator is to simply improve myself in any way possible, whether it be physically or mentally. If you've read my Scrawny to Brawny blog you'll see that I'm pretty skinny and also pretty weak in terms of strength. Essentially I'm tired of being skinny and having a lack of stregnth and I want to improve those two qualities. Also I've noticed that the discipline required to keep up with my training/diet has translated into other aspects of my life most notably in school and work.
I was originally motivated by the threat of a heart condition and diabetes. When I lost quite a bit of weight I realized how much better I felt and looked and that became my motivator. Now that I have lost over 100# my main motivation is to see whats next how good can I become physically. I never thought I would see the day that I would look forward to going to a beach or a pool and laying out in the sun. If you have never been large you might not know what an amazing feeling it is to get your self confidence back. The old addage goes that looks aren't everything but when you are large you certainly realize that they are very important to most people.
My motivation well I don't have any anymore!
initially, when i started working out 7 years ago, I wanted to lose weight because I was fat. I reached that goal after 6 months, then I wanted to gain muscle mass. I came to the point that I'm satisfied about the way I look (well not complete I still want my abs to pop out more ) so I'm simply enjoying the way I feel and look and that's motivation enough atm!
Hated PE at school. I was the fat kid being bullied by the muscular young body builders, kick-boxers and other macho's who spend their weekends in the gym. On the university campus, everybody could benifit from the facilities of the sports deparment: swimming pool, athletics track, fully equipped fitness room, soccer field, multi-sport courts and basic conditioning courses. In five years I only set foot once in the sports building... to fetch a sandwich from their cafeteria.
At 34 I made some major changes in my life. One of them was I would spend more time and energy on myself and things I liked. Suddenly I had more time on my hands. I passed by the gym and said to myself, "when are you going to take care of that body of yours?" "If you don't invest in your health right now, you are going to regret it not far from now". I made an appointment to visit the place and subscribed after the visit. I killed two birds with one stone: I was actively doing something for my future health and had something new to focus my attention on.
Soon after strange things started to happen. Collegues and friends asked where I had been on holiday, because I looked different, better. People who hadn't seen me for a long time where amazed on how much I had changed for the better. When I ran to catch a bus, I was fast enough to get on that bus.
I'm still somewhat overweight and have given up hope to have six-pack abs or even have a flat stomach. But somehow I'm feeling 10x stronger and fitter then in my teens or twens. I'm very determined when I work out and that has earned me the respect of the other gym members and the staff.
Now it's my body that keeps me going. I feel a physical need to move, to challenge myself.
I guess it all amounts to two slogans that are posted at the entrance of our gym: Motivation is what gets you started, habit is what keeps you going and A stong mind begins with a strong body.
PS those machos in high school have changed their lifting routines from pounds to pints and are now worse off then I ever was.
I'm still somewhat overweight and have given up hope to have six-pack abs or even have a flat stomach. But somehow I'm feeling 10x stronger and fitter then in my teens or twens. I'm very determined when I work out and that has earned me the respect of the other gym members and the staff.
Glad to hear you changed yuor life around and took control.
And never give up on striving for the above I used to say that all the while I mean two years ago at 34 and 252lbs I never dared think about a 6 pack just trimming a little off and getting fitter. End resuly December 2005 175lbs body fat 9.5% and first ever 6 pack, sorry type full on holy grail 8.
So never say enough is enough if you want it then go for it
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"The time for talking has passed, actions are speaking louder than words."
Everynight I make this motivating and very important 'quote' the last thing I read, and the first thing I read in the morning (after of course, what time it is.) I tape it to my door, so it's there to see every morning before I turn the knob:
WAKE UP.
Today is a gift from God.
Yesterday is history.
Tomorrow is never guarenteed.
Make the most of today.
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The key to immortality is first living a life worth remembering. // Bruce Lee
!! You would think I had a big F**K YOU tattooed on my forehead for some of the looks I got. I am surprised the didn't ask me why the hell I bothered coming to see them if I wasn't going to follow there advice. I am glad they didn't because I wouldn't have a doctor at the moment!! 
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