Don't worry about the
9s. They'll take care of themselves.
Cut down on the 6s, which are hard to avoid. They are in EVERYTHING, it seems. Try to avoid soybean oil and corn oil, specifically. Also, if it's labeled Vegetable Oil, skip it. Look for products that use Canola, olive, flaxseed, walnut, sesame, coconut, and/or palm oils, instead.
You don't need to specifically supplement or squeeze these things into the diet, but if you're going to have something that requires oil, look for the best choices, with the fewest 6s.
For instance, Omega-3 eggs aren't really all
that high in 3s. But any 3s in there means fewer 6s, right? I eat a lot of egg yolks. I consider my Omega-3 eggs to be reduced 6 eggs.
Also, I like margarine, not butter. Canola margarine has fewer 6s than your standard margarines.
I've got to use oil for cooking and dressing. I don't always want olive oil tastes involved, so I look for oils that do the least "harm" with neutral or complementary tastes: Canola, walnut, coconut, etc.
Up the 3s, but not to 45g. You were right to be confused.