Annette,
How do/did you feel about yourself during the month? If you're feeling bad and guilty and have the heavy feeling of not doing what you promise yourself, you're losing power instead of empowering yourself.
I've seen you go back and forth between saying you're tired of the constant deficit and regimen and want a break, and then not declaring "I will take a 4 week break and then come back to a focused deficit," which would be very powerful and self-loving, practicing maintaining is also a strength. But you're maintaining and feeling it as a weakness. So you lose your power and happiness either way... not enjoying maintaining, frustrated at not losing and slipping on and off.
You were the poster child for being your word and getting results. It was so easy for you to lose fat. Even now, you're not gaining, even while being on slippery-slope of calories. You are so lucky to have your body that is kind to you.
You know if you want to get slim and stay slim, and monitor your drinking, then it will be a 1-3 year process of new habits, breakdowns, recoveries, learning... Why do you want that? What is your vision of yourself?
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How does one get "it" back? I've lost "it" and don't know where to find "it."
I think this question is not really your question that you want to ask. I think you are still ambivalent about wanting to focus and lose another 10 lbs of fat, vs taking a longer maintenance break. How were you when you first came here to diet? Totally committed or ambivalent. Perhaps look back at your early log posts.
I think it really only takes about 3-5 days of totally committed, "I said I would do x and I did x today" to get back in the groove. But I think you are still fighting with ambivalence about wanting to knuckle down and deficit for another 3-month phase and lose the next 12-18 lbs you can lose in that time.
Don't be embarrassed by a month of no change. Health and fitness is a marathon not a sprint.
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Sorry for the disjointed ramble. I hope that some of it made sense. Cut yourself slack and learn what you can, it is a constant learning process.
Nah, I'm not really embarrassed, more just frustrated. Even when I feel like crap about something, I always try to find the positive, I do better with positive reinforcement. I will keep learning.
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And please keep us posted on how Precision Nutrition works out for you. I've been curious about that for a while, but I don't know if I should go that route, or with another nutritionist/system once I get into marathon training.
I've always been interested, just wish it wasn't so expensive. Figured I'll give it a read, and hopefully a try, and it will get me back on track.
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Annette,
How do/did you feel about yourself during the month? If you're feeling bad and guilty and have the heavy feeling of not doing what you promise yourself, you're losing power instead of empowering yourself.
I've seen you go back and forth between saying you're tired of the constant deficit and regimen and want a break, and then not declaring "I will take a 4 week break and then come back to a focused deficit," which would be very powerful and self-loving, practicing maintaining is also a strength. But you're maintaining and feeling it as a weakness. So you lose your power and happiness either way... not enjoying maintaining, frustrated at not losing and slipping on and off.
You were the poster child for being your word and getting results. It was so easy for you to lose fat. Even now, you're not gaining, even while being on slippery-slope of calories. You are so lucky to have your body that is kind to you.
You know if you want to get slim and stay slim, and monitor your drinking, then it will be a 1-3 year process of new habits, breakdowns, recoveries, learning... Why do you want that? What is your vision of yourself?
I think this question is not really your question that you want to ask. I think you are still ambivalent about wanting to focus and lose another 10 lbs of fat, vs taking a longer maintenance break. How were you when you first came here to diet? Totally committed or ambivalent. Perhaps look back at your early log posts.
I think it really only takes about 3-5 days of totally committed, "I said I would do x and I did x today" to get back in the groove. But I think you are still fighting with ambivalence about wanting to knuckle down and deficit for another 3-month phase and lose the next 12-18 lbs you can lose in that time.
You have a lot of good stuff here. How do I feel? I rarely feel bad and guilty. BTW, I forgot to mention the half box of Nutter Butters the other day. See I didn't feel guilty about it, it was one of those absurd cravings that overcome you before you even think about it. Damn, I forgot about the bag of french burnt peanuts too. Yea, I had a tummy ache.
But seriously, I don't feel guilt when I have a "binge." I feel frustrated. I'm either 100% on plan, or 100% off plan. What I have to work on is the inbetween.
Oh, I guess it's pretty obvious that I'm a perfectionist at times. I'm either perfect, or I'm not...lol.
Eating out gets me off track, and I've had lots of opportunities to eat out lately. In fact, I'm going out for lunch with my sewing group in about an hour. Maybe what I have to focus on is my eating out techniques. Some days I'll know we're eating out and I'll plan for a big juicy burger and fries, seriously one of my favorites. Today we're going out for Italian, I'm not sure what I want. I could just eat light, have a bowl of soup...blah.
Breakfast was good and healthy, dinner is planned to be light already (grilled chicken and veggies) so I can be a bit more slack at lunch.
It's just getting back on the boat.
The other day I really didn't want to do "this." I took off my GWF and spent the day on my ass watching tv shows online eating sunflower seeds, and seriously, I had a grand old time. I had a blast. Sometimes I wonder why I could so easily fall back into old habits. The new ones are not ingrained yet, not even close.
I keep the 2-3 year thing in my head.
Thanks for all the positive thoughts. Oh, and I've been keeping myself busy this morning, doing housework and such....I've just been so darn lazy lately.
Popping in to say hi and catch up on reading. I don't have any brilliant insights to offer. But I like Etana's comment about our habits requiring a process of years to reform. It's so true. I have to keep that in mind, too.
Etana's got a good point about the ambivalence. You've said yourself that you're not that bothered anymore, that you feel like you gotten to a point you can be somewhat happy with. I, for a different reason, have started to feel ambivalent too. I need that fire again. I'm searching too.
We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons. - Jim Rohn
If you want to get somewhere you have to know where you want to go and how to get there. Then never, never, never give up. - Norman Vincent Peale
Annette,
In reading your log, I recognize similar frustrations to my own. I feel I get in to cycles of food addiction, kinda. Even while I am chowing on 1/2 a box of whatever thing that's really not worth it, I'm thinking, "Why am I doing this?" The answer: cuz it makes me feel good and there is a snowball effect.
Going on a nasty low carb diet for a week or two helps me break that cycle. After eating stuff I really don't love for a time, I lose that "gimme more!" feeling and can enjoy carb-y stuff in smaller amounts and stay in control.
Give Precision Nutrition a try. I have it. I think the idea might work for some people (a bit too restrictive for me), but if nothing else it should give you some insight on how to structure your diet for achieving physical fitness.
I'm not sure what it will take for you to become motivated, though. Maybe plan a vacation a few months from now in which you will try to wear something that would look better at a smaller size! Oh, here's an idea: get yourself a nice, energetic dog friend to walk with daily. I somehow live under the belief that dogs are the answer to everything .
The dog is in the plans some time soon, maybe in the Spring. Our dog died recently, too old to walk much at that point. Our yard was torn apart recently by the city to put in a new drainage system, and when we have a fence back and grass, doggy with be with us.
And I have 4 cats.
Hubby wants two dogs, I say no way in Hell, the house is too small.
We do borrow a grand-doggy on occasion, but she's a corgi and has those darn short legs.
We're doing the local arboretum later this week with our grand-dog Lucy.
Dog person here too! I would love to get a dog! Now that I run, I think a weimeraner would be great. High maintenece dogs though. Boxer's I've always loved. Alas, its so not going to happen until I'm retired... *sigh*
We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons. - Jim Rohn
If you want to get somewhere you have to know where you want to go and how to get there. Then never, never, never give up. - Norman Vincent Peale
Gen, my husband had a weimerainer and would love another and I know how big that dog was (she'd sleep on the couch and take up the whole thing) and that sounds too difficult to me. I might lose that fight as that's what he'd like. My criteria are non-smelly and not very hairy, and preferably not gigantic.
Not a very exciting week for my GoWearFit data. Can you see how lazy I've become about tracking calories? If I look back it's been just over 3 weeks since I first was hitting 158, and now I'm staying there pretty solidly. Sure, I could call it a plateau, or the "average" dieter might call it a plateau, but tracking regularly shows me it's not a plateau in the dieting sense. It's a plateau in the "eating" sense.
Ah ha....so how many people on diets think they are on a plateau but in reality they just aren't tracking as closely as they did before, or are sneaking in extra bits here and there, and actually have an increase in calories...LIKE ME.
I bet you anything that had my momentum stayed up, and I was having my consistent deficits of 800+ calories a day, that I'd still be showing the weight loss I had before.
Yup....
So....what's the plan?
Do what I know I need to do. Track those darn calories, allow myself to eat because I really want to eat. But if I want to eat I have to burn a few more, not a zillion more just more.
Keep up the daily walks, do more weights than I'm doing (I'm only getting in 3 weight workout a week) and add some extra cardio (as that's not happening.)
Eek, and to take pictures and measurements on the 1st of October.
As far as getting "it" back--that's really difficult. I think it does come down to what your priorities are, food or losing fat (at least, that's how I'm starting to think of it as I face fall when I'm less active and whether or not I'd want to drop calories further). So maybe ask yourself what's really important to you right now: eating those extra calories or dropping more fat. And if the extra calories are more important, then ask yourself if you're happy with that being priority. Sort of a pro/con deal. Otherwise, I'm out of ideas.
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As far as getting "it" back--that's really difficult. I think it does come down to what your priorities are, food or losing fat (at least, that's how I'm starting to think of it as I face fall when I'm less active and whether or not I'd want to drop calories further). So maybe ask yourself what's really important to you right now: eating those extra calories or dropping more fat. And if the extra calories are more important, then ask yourself if you're happy with that being priority. Sort of a pro/con deal. Otherwise, I'm out of ideas.
WHAT!!!?????
You're saying it just doesn't happen like magic, on it's own, without me trying?
Darn!!!
I actually have been thinking about it a lot lately. I WANT TO EAT!!!
So, I guess that means one thing, move more, and accept a smaller deficit.
WHAT!!!?????
You're saying it just doesn't happen like magic, on it's own, without me trying?
Darn!!!
I actually have been thinking about it a lot lately. I WANT TO EAT!!!
So, I guess that means one thing, move more, and accept a smaller deficit.
I'm off to the gym right now.
Yeah, we're totally in the same exact place right now. I'm back to running and cardio and probably will start a more prolific weights routine again. Maybe two low days a week or so. Other than that, just gimme some food!
We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons. - Jim Rohn
If you want to get somewhere you have to know where you want to go and how to get there. Then never, never, never give up. - Norman Vincent Peale
Yeah, we're totally in the same exact place right now. I'm back to running and cardio and probably will start a more prolific weights routine again. Maybe two low days a week or so. Other than that, just gimme some food!
Yea, that darn food thing....lol.
Not much to report. Diet kinda sort sucked big time today. I didn't exercise either as I had a bunch of shopping to do for my Halloween costume.
I over worked upper body yesterday and paid for it today with a kinked up neck.
Massage therapist did a good massage on me.
Tomorrow is another busy day but I have to get in a walk and some weights (if possible.)
Annette, that's an awesome costume! Take pictures, 'kay?
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They call me Amanda, that being my real name, and "They" being people who know me in person as I don't go around introducing myself in real life as "scribess." 'Cause that would just be strange.
Yes, I'm sewing it, starting today, for a contest on a sewing forum I'm active on. The front is shorter than the back. Hopefully it will all work out as I'm sorta winging it, but at least I'm capable of sewing and doing that.
So it's the first of the month and I whipped out the trusty tape measure.
My bust "appears" larger in my measurements, but that's because I got some new bras that really push those babies up there. The underbust measurement actually dropped.
When I started the dieting back on June first I was wearing a 38D bra. Then I got down into 36D. Then I read some awesome stuff on fitting into the right bra and now I'm in 34DDD. I totally feel like the boobs are in my face, but they do look better, the bras fits better and sewing will be much easier as I won't have to adjust for a "low" bust.
My waist went down 1 inch, and my hips 1/2" and the underbust also 1".
So no major drops, but I also only show about 1.5lb weight loss.
And I know I was so totally off of being compliant in any shape manor or form this month, it just wasn't there....but I still had a minor loss, which means a deficit, which shows in both the scale and the tape measure.
So, it's now a new month.
The question is, can I reel it in and kick some ass. My halloween costume would look so awesome if I was under 150 lbs when wearing it...lol.
I'll post my new stats after I get pics, which will be useless for such a small loss
My waist went down 1 inch, and my hips 1/2" and the underbust also 1".
So no major drops, but I also only show about 1.5lb weight loss.
And I know I was so totally off of being compliant in any shape manor or form this month, it just wasn't there....but I still had a minor loss, which means a deficit, which shows in both the scale and the tape measure.
So, it's now a new month.
You are a very lucky girl, a fantastic metabolism... Don't take it for granted... I worry that you're walking a tightrope of being pulled back to old ways ... too many "food parties" in a week... That perfect side of you: all or nothing... that you mentioned... It will be interesting over the months to see how you find yourself around food, fat loss, maintenance.
Kudos that you pulled off this month with a loss and a break at the same time!
You are a very lucky girl, a fantastic metabolism... Don't take it for granted... I worry that you're walking a tightrope of being pulled back to old ways ... too many "food parties" in a week... That perfect side of you: all or nothing... that you mentioned... It will be interesting over the months to see how you find yourself around food, fat loss, maintenance.
Kudos that you pulled off this month with a loss and a break at the same time!
Oh don't worry about me. Trust me, I find positive feedback in all my negatives...lol. I have never taken my metabolism for granted, in fact, I've always known there is nothing wrong with my metabolism. Wearing my GWF has totally shown that to me. It's shown a lot of interesting things, or basically has proven much of what people like Leigh Peele, etc. are taking about when they discuss metabolism, deficits, refeeds, etc.
Yesterday I didn't exercise. I did not go on a walk, I did not go to the gym (as planned) and I didn't do any excess NEAT. I went shopping just for a short while, had to buy new cowboy boots, and then sewed a lot. I played on the computer, I sewed some more, and I watched 2 hours of TV at night.
I burned over 2600 calories.
I ate more than that (yup.)
But it tells me my body is in a perfect place to start dieting again. My metabolism is high, my energy levels are high, my hormones are fine (just had thyroid tested, all's good.) I just have to get my butt in gear.
I am waiting on the Precision Nutrition manual I ordered, so hopefully that's here soon.
Now the hard part...getting past the cravings. Right now I'm always hungry (remember the high metabolism part.) I'm constantly hungry and even have a growling tummy at times.
I know one way to get rid of the carb cravings, and that's to eat no carbs for a few days. Eat a basic Atkins Induction diet until the carb cravings are gone. I wish I had thought about it before my milk in the coffee this morning, but besides that, I'm in. I had eggs, bacon and cheese for breakfast. Will have meat, salad and dressing for lunch, and probably for dinner too. Do that for a few days, get Precision Nutrition, and hopefully be back on a roll.
So yes, I'm taking an extended break, and yes at times I feel a bit out of control, but at the same time I do have it in my head to get to goal...but I have to be there.
Plan today is to eat like I mentioned. If I'm hungry, eat protein or fat...that's it...no carbs. And remember, I'm not a carbphobe, it's just to get the cravings out of me.
I do have to get back to the gym. It's kind of been nice not doing weights as I have no aches and pains at this time. My body feels well recuperated. So my goal is to not work too hard, as I hate hurting.
We also have dancing tonight. Today will be a high burn day for me.
Sounds like a good plan to get you back on track. Good luck!
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They call me Amanda, that being my real name, and "They" being people who know me in person as I don't go around introducing myself in real life as "scribess." 'Cause that would just be strange.
know one way to get rid of the carb cravings, and that's to eat no carbs for a few days. Eat a basic Atkins Induction diet until the carb cravings are gone
Yeah, I'll bet the craving go sooner than you think, and you'll be in the groove again, with this plan!
Probably a little low glycmic (sp?) vegies or a bit of fruit wouldn't trigger the carb craving...
I'm reading Precision Nutrition right now...just got here about an hour ago. Made some coffee, had some soymilk in it, life is good.
So far eating has been easy today. It was that "standard" Atkins breakfast that did it (minus the milk in my coffee.) But seriously some bacon, cheese and eggs kept me satisfied for a long time.
I later went to the gym after a few errands, did a short/moderate workout, and was just about done when I felt a tough light-headed, so I got my butt out of there. My body was telling me to eat though my tummy didn't feel it yet.
I've been concentrating on my shoulders lately, and guess what? I have shoulder muscles, I really REALLY do. Once the fat is gone the muscles will show.
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