I just feel the need to share this story...because it's always been something that irks me. I have pretty much been abused by many people throughout my life (mostly boys, men) who feel the need to share their thoughts about my weight with me in public settings...out loud. I am not whining...I learned how to deal, and in most cases I will usually "ignore" them as my mother always told me to do. If I had taken my father's advice to " knock them out" I would have been in a fair amount of trouble growing up...
So, other than yelling general things like "hey fat ass" or "here fatty, fatty" etc...there seems to be just s general lack of respect for women who are larger. Whereas our larger male counterparts I feel take considerably less abuse in this way.
So, as I am leaving the gym one Friday, after boxing a sweaty mess, and heading to the locker room to put down my gloves to go do an hour of cardio...a group of "romper room" high schoolers surrounded by older "men" who should know better are standing around a machine. As I walk by, one of the group says something like..."Yeah...ok...Rocky." followed by laughter from the group. Now, normal me would have kept walking...but...excuse me, I was in my gym, working my ass off...for ME....not for you guys...and who the hell do you think you are!!???
So I turn, and address the group...(they're usually in group...since they are mostly too cowardly to do it by themselves.) and say: "Excuse me...but do you know me?" To which one answers (I presume the offender) "Uh...no..." So I said "Then kindly shut your fucking mouth...ok?" I then smiled sarcastically and kept walking. I didn't hear much behind me so I assume my answer was sufficient for them.
My ponderance is this...WHY....do you guys (mostly) INSIST on this behavior? Is it really necessary to make yourselves feel big at the expense of someone else you don't even know? I may think things to myself when people walk by...but I would NEVER not in a million years EVER voice that to anyone...unless it was something nice that I thought might make them feel good. Truly I understand the psychology behind the attacks...but...it's so damn frustrating. I truly don't care what is being said anymore...I just don't care to allow it to happen anymore. Not that I'll ever stoop to "knocking them out" that is....
At least...not right now...maybe later on....
I don't get it, either. These are the same guys that hoot and holler out the car window at women, too.
I think that type would do the same to a guy, but they don't know that the guy won't hit them or something. They play it safe and snicker and whisper just out of range of hearing. Assholes.
I think you're AWESOME for dropping an f-bomb on them. Wish I had your guts sometimes!
And I have no answer for that behavior other than... too much testosterone and "I'm hung bigger than you" competition going on? I dunno - I'm female! (although I realize it's hard to tell hamster-gender)
Yeah...I guess they initially make me angry...and I'd like to hit them... But in reality you have to feel bad for them...they are kind of sad. I just hope that when I have kids, I will be able to instill within them a respect for others no matter how different they may be.
I think you're AWESOME for dropping an f-bomb on them. Wish I had your guts sometimes!
And I have no answer for that behavior other than... too much testosterone and "I'm hung bigger than you" competition going on? I dunno - I'm female! (although I realize it's hard to tell hamster-gender)
I'm not usually so vocal...it's usually more like...keep your head down, keep walking and they'll stop...lol...it takes more than one offense usually to have me open my mouth, I guess I was just hot and sweaty and annoyed...lol...it was fun tho...
Definitely a pissing contest there...the little twerps...
6/8/08 Cardio Day Today Cause I missed Wednesday this week:
Elliptical Trainer - 40 mins - Random Setting - Level 13 Cross Ramp Trainer - 15 mins - Gluteal 2 setting - Resistance 7
It was HUMID as a MF today....yikes...both outside and even a little inside the gym. I was happy to get back to the apt and pump the AC...I do like summer...I just don't do well in the heat...get really cranky and sluggish. Plus, I can't wear as little as I'd like without offending the general population! Soon tho maybe...
Hubby and I went to a local shoe place for new sneakers before we went gymmming...it was time. They're called Roadrunner, and they're awesome...the guys in there are mostly runners, and they watch you walk and determine what type of shoes may work best for your gait and how you roll your feet. I walk on the outsides of my feet, I always did...so I tended to roll my ankles and still do. So they fitted me with these Brooks:
Whaaaaaa....? They're shoes for the gym...I had to buy them...for my feet...and my knees...ok..so they're kinda cool looking too...that's just a coincidence....
They are hella comfy...and I think they'll benefit my knees too! Left me thinking...why didn't we go sooner?? DUH!
I think you're AWESOME for dropping an f-bomb on them. Wish I had your guts sometimes!
She is awesome and I wish I was there to witness it! Although if I was there they may not have said anything because I am bigger than everyone in the group in question. Even though I don't feel the need to act like an asshole to prove my manliness.
I am totally not the type of guy to start a fight and probably never would, but I would love to just walk up to them and say something tough like "you got a problem with her, you got a problem with me".
Kristen is probably hysterical laughing at that, because its the complete opposite of who I am. But I still think it would be fun.
You were way nicer than I would been. Cuz my first thought was to stop and ask if the reason they couldn't come up with something better is because their weenies are so small...
Some guys feel some weird-assed need to "prove" something to others, and that's usually putting someone else down... but they're really just pissypussys because they're too scared to come after someone who might just kick their asses.
She is awesome and I wish I was there to witness it! Although if I was there they may not have said anything because I am bigger than everyone in the group in question. Even though I don't feel the need to act like an asshole to prove my manliness.
I am totally not the type of guy to start a fight and probably never would, but I would love to just walk up to them and say something tough like "you got a problem with her, you got a problem with me".
Kristen is probably hysterical laughing at that, because its the complete opposite of who I am. But I still think it would be fun.
Heehee...my big, brawny, pacifist... <3
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Originally Posted by Aoife
You were way nicer than I would been. Cuz my first thought was to stop and ask if the reason they couldn't come up with something better is because their weenies are so small...
Some guys feel some weird-assed need to "prove" something to others, and that's usually putting someone else down... but they're really just pissypussys because they're too scared to come after someone who might just kick their asses.
It's all very middle school... isn't it?
Hehehehe...pissypussys...
Yeah they're a bunch of little twerps, I just realized that most of the time all you have to do is call them on their crap and they've got nothing else...I just never bothered to answer them before! lol...
Hmmmm middle school...the only time I let my temper get to me...and one guy wore the inside of a locker...ahhh the good old days...before you can be tried as an adult...
*nod*
sad time now... punch someone and they'll sue...
walk up to them and cup their johnson and say .... "wow... my sympathies to your girl" and they'd prolly wanna scream harassment...
:ROFLOL:
__________________ It all starts with the mind, but the thoughts, the intention aren't enough. Action needs to come next. Dream it, believe it, plan it, execute it, celebrate it. - Wendy
Breakfast: Thomas's Sandwich Thin and Egg White Sandwich (230)
w/ some Honeydew Melon
Snack#1 1% Cottage Cheese and More Melon (80)
Lunch: Leftover sandwich from weekend party -turkey and brie on italian bread...mmmm (538)
Snack #2 Will be a fiji apple...looking forward to the crunchies...(90)
Oddly enough...the melon does not taste like the peanut M&M's that are in the copy room...(not that I've had any since they're there) There is an assortment of items in the copy room that are KILLING me. PMS and chocolate are just not fair...there are Ghirardelli Chocolates, and Godiva Chocolates...as well as those long crunchy cookies with hazelnut chocolate filling leftover from a party they had on the premises this weekend...SO NOT COOL...my #1 favorite food = chocolate. And I haven't been craving it lately really...but it's still not easy to go in there and SEE IT!!!
My apple will save me tho...plus I'm pretty stuffed from lunch already...but man...this is SO NOT FAIR!
I went through this last month with PMS. I was about ready to kick some serious booty before it was all said and done.
__________________ It all starts with the mind, but the thoughts, the intention aren't enough. Action needs to come next. Dream it, believe it, plan it, execute it, celebrate it. - Wendy
Eh, when I seriously have a chocolate craving i go ahead and have a ghiradeli square or lindor ball... it's like 75 calories, i like em dark, and then there, I've had it.
*shrug*
I just need to heed my understanding that I'm not ready to keep stuff in the house yet...
I've been pretty good at ignoring it thus far...only 2 more hours to go... I could have a piece if I really wanted to...but...I can't just have a few peanut M&M's...it'll end up being a heaping handful. And between the chocolate AND the peanuts...there goes a whole lotta calories. So..for now..none for me! Maybe a fudge pop tho later if I have cals leftover!!!!
I just need to heed my understanding that I'm not ready to keep stuff in the house yet...
Oh yeah...there is definitely NONE of this in my house...the fudge pops are there...they're a harmless 40cals for one. Other than that...it's rice cakes and fruit and veggies..lol I have what I want when I have the calories to allow it...in moderation, but never bring it into the house in anything more than a single serving.
There's times when I'm actually able to keep the stuff in the house. Have one a day at most, usually only a couple a week. But then there's times when I'm like... it's just xx calories... (and then do it 8 times a day...) so... yeah. right now, hell no.
I make myself want the shit bad enough to have to go out and get it. That gives plenty of time for all the reasons not to to surface... and if I really want it, I can not feel badly about ONE.
Cardio Elliptical Trainer - 40 mins - Random Setting - Level 14 Cross Ramp Trainer - 15 mins Gluteal 2 - Resistance 7
I didn't really have it for the cross trainer part...but I pumped up the Gwen Stefani and went through with it anyway...the gym was soooo hot! I don't think I've ever sweat that much in my life!
Then I went home and collapsed into a heap...it was HUMID and 100 degrees today! YIKES!!
Cardio Warmup - Elliptical Trainer Random Setting, Level 15 10 mins
Pull Downs
60 lbs x 15
70 lbs x 12
80 lbs x 10
Overhead Press
40 lbs x 15 x 3 sets
Bent Over Rows
25 lbs x 15
25 lbs x 12
30 lbs x 10
DB Bench Press
25 lbs x 15
25 lbs x 12
30 lbs x 10
Superset Lateral Raises
8 lbs x 10
8 lbs x 10
8 lbs x 10
Hammer Curls
15 lbs x 15
15 lbs x 15
20 lbs x 10
Curls (e-z curl bar)
40 lbs x 8
50 lbs x 6
This really didn't feel like a lot at all compared to what I usually do, I was kind of disappointed with myself. The air conditioning hasn't been working right in the gym, hence the shortened cardio this week...and I really felt like crap because it was soooo hot!
Elliptical Trainer - Random Setting - Level 12 -15 - 35 mins Crossramp Trainer - Gluteal 2 Setting - Resistance 7 - 20 mins
It was REALLY HOT in the gym today...the air came on in the last few mins of my workout. This one felt really pathetic too...I didn't have the energy to get my heartbeat up past 148 for most of the time...and it was pissing me off!!! I am usually tired when I have my period...but MAN....with the heat on top of it...you might as well have shot me this week...it's ridiculous!!!
Anyway...I hate feeling weak...and that's what I was feeling this week. I usually gain weight after I have my period, so this time around...I will be really happy if I stay the same...given the weak workouts so far this week...and the lame cardio!! At least I went...I guess! I just really hate going and not feeling like I can give 100%...it annoys me. Oh well...hopefully now that the air's working in the gym I'll feel better and be more productive!
Superset Seated Row
60 lbs x 20
70 lbs x 20
80 lbs x 20
Squats to Bench
BW x 25
20 lb Aerobic Bar x 25
BW x 25 (Slow and steady…really concentrating on keeping my back straight!)
Superset Shoulder Press Machine
30 lbs x 25
40 lbs x 25
40 lbs x 25
BW Push Ups
10 x 3 sets
Superset Push Downs
40 lbs x 20
40 lbs x 20
50 lbs x 20
Rope Push Downs
50 lbs x 15
50 lbs x 15
60 lbs x 15
Superset Rope Curls
40 lbs x 20
40 lbs x 20
50 lbs x 20
Hammer Curls
15 lbs x 30 secs x 3 sets
Cardio Elliptical Trainer – Random Setting – Level 14 – 20 mins Treadmill – Incline 5 – 2.8mph – 15 mins Crossramp Trainer – Gluteal 2 – Resistance 7-10 – 20 mins
It was a good workout day today. The weather finally subsided a bit and the air conditioning in the gym is back in working order! My trainer told me tonight that he will be moving soon…probably in a few weeks…so…time to make a decision…train myself…or look for a new trainer?? I think the hubby and I will have lots to talk about this weekend. I was thinking of staying with a trainer throughout the summer, since it’s usually my most difficult time…and then in August starting the NROLW by myself. So we’ll see! Either way…I will continue to lose weight now that I’m on the downward trend!
I looked her up a bit more...and apparently not only can she lift...but she's also capable of running forty yards in 5.5 seconds, jumping 30-inch vertical leaps, and doing front, back, and sideway splits!
I think switching to a new trainer for the summer and then ditching the trainer and following NROLW is going to work out better in the end. It was time for some change anyway. The only downside that I see right now is not having the boxing, but hopefully you can find an alternative like taking a class or learning some heavy bag routines that you can do on your own.
No matter what, we will come up with a plan that will work for you.
(my last pop in to say HI is no longer here, but you be kickin ass and I'm sure you'll be fine without a trainer. Really.)
Thanks...I'm thinking it may be time to ween myself off the trainers...I mean seriously...I can take care of it myself right?? If not..then I'll be paying trainers my whole life...and seriously...I have wayyyy funner thing I'd like to do with that dough!!!!
Thanks...I'm thinking it may be time to ween myself off the trainers...I mean seriously...I can take care of it myself right?? If not..then I'll be paying trainers my whole life...and seriously...I have wayyyy funner thing I'd like to do with that dough!!!!
Seriously tho...I've been dying for a top sleeve of a Koi for years now...but I can't do it till my arms are smaller more permanently...lol...something along the lines of this minus the chest part:
No workout today...cleaned the apt for about 3 hrs straight with P today..our friends were coming over with their 1 yr old and we had to "baby-proof" clean the house. It was good tho...made us clean!
Dunno if that is many calories...but I did MOVE around at least! As opposed to spending the whole morning sitting at my jewelry desk again!
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