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Sarah Rippel · 12-06-2008, 09:02 PM

I am probably not going to come back to this thread b/c I shudder to think of the possible "anti-gay" comments that could result. I thank you, CE, for being respectful in your post. Anyone who wants to throw their homophobic remarks out hopefully bites their tongue. In this day and age, I feel it's ridiculous, chicken shit, and unnecessary.

With that being said...

I've been in your shoes...i've had sleazy nasty old men hit on me, i've had handsome guys hit on me, i've had homely women hit on me, and i've had hot women hit on me. Same goes for clients, lol

People are people. I have a gay brother and have gay friends and I am very used to the "stereotypical gay male" stuff. Guys are guys, I guess. Okay, I guess it goes for women too, because I have had numerous "seemingly-non-gay" female clients come on to me. Engaged...married...you name it. Yeah, of course i've had guy clients hit on me too. What sucks is that you're there to do your JOB and in no way are you seeking anything aside from that, but a client has other intentions. Personally, situations like this make me feel like a piece of meat, scuzzy, and extremely uncomfortable.

Is it okay for him to act like that? No. It's definitely crossing the boundaries. It would be a violation of boundaries if it was a male...female...alien...cat... dog...you name it.

It's not right. You have a business arrangement. The fact that you go to train him in his home makes things harder. I understand this b/c that's how I run my business. Yes, i've been placed in a few uncomforable situations b/c of this. You need to trust your gut. Yes, you need the money, but are you willing to feel uncomfortable finishing out the rest of his sessions? If I were in your shoes, after all i've had to deal with, i'd confront him. It's not fair for you to feel you're not able to do your job b/c he's obviously got different things in mind. It's just not right. It sucks if you're needing the money, so you gotta figure that one out. I personally would let him know how I felt and see what happened from there.

And can I borrow this quote?

"He thinks I'm magically going to start liking penis. I figure if it hasnt happened in 29 years it ain't happenin'."

12-06-2008, 09:02 PM	#2 (permalink)
Sarah Rippel Nerd Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 86	I am probably not going to come back to this thread b/c I shudder to think of the possible "anti-gay" comments that could result. I thank you, CE, for being respectful in your post. Anyone who wants to throw their homophobic remarks out hopefully bites their tongue. In this day and age, I feel it's ridiculous, chicken shit, and unnecessary. With that being said... I've been in your shoes...i've had sleazy nasty old men hit on me, i've had handsome guys hit on me, i've had homely women hit on me, and i've had hot women hit on me. Same goes for clients, lol People are people. I have a gay brother and have gay friends and I am very used to the "stereotypical gay male" stuff. Guys are guys, I guess. Okay, I guess it goes for women too, because I have had numerous "seemingly-non-gay" female clients come on to me. Engaged...married...you name it. Yeah, of course i've had guy clients hit on me too. What sucks is that you're there to do your JOB and in no way are you seeking anything aside from that, but a client has other intentions. Personally, situations like this make me feel like a piece of meat, scuzzy, and extremely uncomfortable. Is it okay for him to act like that? No. It's definitely crossing the boundaries. It would be a violation of boundaries if it was a male...female...alien...cat... dog...you name it. It's not right. You have a business arrangement. The fact that you go to train him in his home makes things harder. I understand this b/c that's how I run my business. Yes, i've been placed in a few uncomforable situations b/c of this. You need to trust your gut. Yes, you need the money, but are you willing to feel uncomfortable finishing out the rest of his sessions? If I were in your shoes, after all i've had to deal with, i'd confront him. It's not fair for you to feel you're not able to do your job b/c he's obviously got different things in mind. It's just not right. It sucks if you're needing the money, so you gotta figure that one out. I personally would let him know how I felt and see what happened from there. And can I borrow this quote? "He thinks I'm magically going to start liking penis. I figure if it hasnt happened in 29 years it ain't happenin'." __________________ "If you love what you do, you'll never have to work a day in your life." Visit my blog: "Outside the Box" Training!