By the way you guys are all right about the food. It really is there problem whether I eat something or not. I wish it wasn't such an awkward situation though. Oh and when we were leaving, my SIL asked if we wanted to take any of the leftovers, and my DH said maybe you shouldn't make so much food! She said well that is what mom does and that is how our family is - we gather around the food. Too bad that she feels it's "tradition" and its expected or something. But she is right, that is how his family is. Most people's are, but its excessive. Especially since they are tight on money and could probably save a lot if they scaled back the food a little! But hey, just my two cents I guess
