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Originally Posted by DirtyMartini
But yeah - here we are, at/around our goals and it is honestly surprising/enlightening at how different it is from my initial expectation. I'm always afraid to talk about this, that people will think I have some sort of body dysmorphia or something, or tell me "you're perfect the way you are!! You're getting too thin!"  Give me a break - being able to grab two full handfuls of fat/skin off my stomach isn't too thin.
So... whereas last night I was kind of pissed that the guide was saying I was small-framed... |
Which guide is this that tells you what kind of frame you have? Maybe I'm BIG boned... OOOhhh.
I've told you before, but when I was 16, weighed 116lbs and went to the gynocologist, he told me I shouldn't be much over 115lbs, that I didn't want to be "fat." I was 16, going thru puberty, finding my balance, and he tells me this. Instead of thinking that I should really keep an eye on my weight, I thought he was a jerk.
The point is, for me, the goal is to feel comfortable in my body. At 120, this is where I feel the most comfortable, look best in my clothes, have the slimmest hips I can have (those "conway" thighs). I can't maintain a weight under 120 and that's just not important for me.
What's most important is being healthy, looking hot, eating well. The body I have is the body I have and there ain't much I can do to change it, without spending a lot of time and/or money on it. At this point in my life, I'd rather spend time with friends, drink a glass of wine (or three) than spend another hour in the gym or worrying about food.
I think the importance of a plump bum is underrated in North American culture. JLo is hot, I must say, she's got a nice ass and it's not small. Beyonce is known for her booty - it looks great - although she seems to have lost some weight lately. I can grab more than two handfuls on my thighs, but I still think I'm thin. If you put me in Argentina, then I'm SKINNY; if you put me in China or Thailand, then I'm a HUGE woman. (My size even varies by Skytrain station: Joyce, thin people, Surrey, bigger people, Burrard, very trendy workaholics)
So, just because you have 11% body fat doesn't automatically mean you're going to feel good about yourself and just because you have a big booty doesn't mean you're going to feel bad about yourself. There are so many "marketing" pressures on women, especially with North American culture being so "obese" and the cultural attitude being so negative towards overweight people.
In sum, the most important thing is to work through advertising, cultural attitudes and stereotypes, other influences, and find your balance.