Chad - I lost a son and remained strong for my wife's sake. I never shed a single tear. A year later I was dealing with severe stomach problems. I couldn't even drive a car because I was so doubled over with the pain.
Emotional expression is a blessing. Like JP said...if you can let these feelings out then you should. Grieving without harming anyone including yourself is a good thing.
I ...on the other hand...was too manly to let them out and they ate me up. I learned the hard way that bottling up what we feel is not healthy.
I'm a Christian...so I thought asking anyone but God for help was a lock of faith or something....WRONG.
Things got really bad at home...I became so angry most of the time that I bagan to lash out at my kids. When that happened..it scared me. I went straight to the doctor and told him what was going on. He gave me some drugs which I stayed on for like a year and they helped. I've been off em for several years now...but I don't regret having done it. It was a bit embarrassing but my family is worth it to me.
Don't be too tough to ask for help. Grief can whoop you man.
God bless you.
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