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Originally Posted by missjane
Regarding your co-worker....I think this is pretty common. It's sort of like the women with babies and all they talk about is their baby. For someone single with no kids or who can't have kids, it can get tiresome. Or anyone else who has a hobby they talk about non-stop in which you have no interest. Same thing with fitness. For someone who isn't on that path (which is their choice), it's probably hard for them to hear about it day in and day out -- similar to those other situations above. What are her interests? Maybe spend some time talking about what is important to her. Then, she may be more apt to be open to talking about your interests.
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Nah, she was just bitching. I'm being flip, but we're friends as well as partners. Since we work so closely, we talk about everything. And I definitely do NOT talk about fitness all day - we talk about boys, NOT having babies (there's a bout of pregnancy going around the office), we talk about work, music, everything. And sure, going to the gym comes up, because it's something I've dedicated myself to, and she even goes to the same gym I do (OCCASIONALLY, for light cardio).
I think sometimes people don't even realize they're being antagonistic and unsupportive. If I were to call her on it, she's the type of person who would puff up and say, "You're being too sensitive!" She's got a bit of a reputation for being mean.
I had a boyfriend once who was totally unsupportive as well. But it was subtle. For instance, if we were having lunch together and I passed on having cheese on a sandwich, he'd be like, "Why aren't you eating cheese?" I'd explain that I was watching what I was eating, working out, and I just didn't need it, and he would say, "Why don't you just eat what you want?" Not, "Oh, you're beautiful as you are, but I'm behind you 100%," but rather, he'd try to get me to abandon my principles for the day.
I don't know what makes people act this way. I'm sure we all do it from time to time. But at least on the fitness/health front, I try to be supportive of my friends and coworkers and encourage them in anything they've expressed an interest in improving.
I guess it's kinda like how there's always THAT guy at a party who's saying, "Why aren't you drinking? Why don't you drink MORE? Want another drink?" when you've had your glass of wine and don't care for more.
Enablers.