Hey rem,
All I have to say is take care of yourself and your family relationship first. Your thread says that you're considering dropping out of the challenge....SCREW THE CHALLENGE!
Look at me! I had a hell of a start to my year, i joined in on the challenge and I don't think I've even had 5 minutes to visit here and post! People probably think I had dropped out weeks ago!
But, your thread made me post. As I choke down my lunch so I can hurry on to my next work project, I decided to hop in here and peek around. Worrying about what people think here doesn't matter....that's the beauty of this place. The good people just read, post advice, and best of all, DON'T JUDGE.
So, take some time off.....the challenge will be here for the next 4 months. That's a lot of time to make some progress. But right now you need to sit down with your wife, talk about your issues, and get to the bottom of your depression. Quite honestly, my wife has gotten pretty out of shape over the past few years. What I found, after having a good conversation with her is that, deep down, she wants to help herself, wants to get back in shape, wants everything I want. But, she lets life get in the way (and so have I the past few years). So, together we need to do it together. There's no other way, and the same applies to you. The snide comments, the remarks, all of that is jealousy, and envy, because I guarantee your wife would rather be in shape that in the state she is now. But, it's okay, it's natural for her to feel that. You need to sit down, get down to it, get past those feelings, and make a plan to work together. That will help your depression, that will help your day to day life, that will give you the motivation to kick start your fitness plan. Marriage is being part of a team, I don't care what people say. If one person isn't into the idea of working as a team, it'll never work.
Best of luck to you. Take a break, and we'll see you soon.
Mike
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