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UConnJulie · 03-03-2008, 01:26 PM

Ray,
I am so sorry first of all for everything that you are going through ... know that we are here anytime you need to vent.

My husband is going through something similar with work ... he absolutely hates his job to the point where his entire personality changes on Sunday since he knows he has to go back to work on Monday. He is working with a therapist (for other reasons sort of related to his job, when he had a "nervous breakdown" in October resulting in some paranoid delusions. It landed him on the psych ward for about a week, and on an antipsychotic med from then until just recently.) and one of the things they are tackling is the job issue. Ultimately it has to be my husband's choice, but he can either, change jobs locally, move to another state and change jobs, stay here and change professions, or stay where he is and learn to see the positive there and not focus on the negative. He is struggling with it even with professional help. So, please don't try to go it alone.

Depression is a whole other thing. Yes, see a professional. Yes, take meds if indicated. But, time and time again it has been shown through research that exercise helps depression.

Other reasons to stick with it are your son and your wife. I agree with Willie ... she is likely insecure, and worried that if you get fit and hot you are going to trade her in for a thin 25-year-old!! How about an old-fashioned sit down where you tell her your fears/concerns and acknowledge hers (even if she screams and yells). Then suggest ideas for improving the family's health. If she resists, do it anyways, and get your son involved.

You also will find that when you get one area of your life in order/cleaned up, the others will follow. Find happiness in the small things. Focus on the positive. Be kind to yourself. The rest will follow.

Hugs,
Julie

03-03-2008, 01:26 PM	#20 (permalink)
UConnJulie Queen of the Princesses! Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Connecticut Posts: 7,209	Ray, I am so sorry first of all for everything that you are going through ... know that we are here anytime you need to vent. My husband is going through something similar with work ... he absolutely hates his job to the point where his entire personality changes on Sunday since he knows he has to go back to work on Monday. He is working with a therapist (for other reasons sort of related to his job, when he had a "nervous breakdown" in October resulting in some paranoid delusions. It landed him on the psych ward for about a week, and on an antipsychotic med from then until just recently.) and one of the things they are tackling is the job issue. Ultimately it has to be my husband's choice, but he can either, change jobs locally, move to another state and change jobs, stay here and change professions, or stay where he is and learn to see the positive there and not focus on the negative. He is struggling with it even with professional help. So, please don't try to go it alone. Depression is a whole other thing. Yes, see a professional. Yes, take meds if indicated. But, time and time again it has been shown through research that exercise helps depression. Other reasons to stick with it are your son and your wife. I agree with Willie ... she is likely insecure, and worried that if you get fit and hot you are going to trade her in for a thin 25-year-old!! How about an old-fashioned sit down where you tell her your fears/concerns and acknowledge hers (even if she screams and yells). Then suggest ideas for improving the family's health. If she resists, do it anyways, and get your son involved. You also will find that when you get one area of your life in order/cleaned up, the others will follow. Find happiness in the small things. Focus on the positive. Be kind to yourself. The rest will follow. Hugs, Julie __________________ Life's a Journey ... Enjoy the Ride!