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Originally Posted by rem1956
PowerMan....and leave your son??? hmmm....thanks for your prespective.
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Been there done that. We all say that we are sticking with it "for the children" when in reality we stay in crummy relationships because we are too chicken shit of what will happen to us if we leave or otherwise insist on change. It really isn't about them at all when we really dig deep. The hardest part about making a change is making the commitment to do it. Once you make the commitment the landing is always quite nice in the end. You are not doing your son or your wife any favours by staying around and being the whipping boy in this relationship. By doing nothing you are enabling your wife's bad behaviours as well as your own.
Make the decision to change. I am not saying to leave but go seek professional help and talk through what your reasons are for being in the mess you are in. Also make it a priority to find a way to deal with your depression issues. I have plenty of friends who were helped tremendously by medications and homeopathy and other things. One of the symptoms of depression is exhaustion so that is all playing into your issues. Make an appointment today to get with a financial advisor as well. Start laying out plans for change.
Stick with the challenge. It isn't about winning any sort of silly contest it is about doing the best that you can do with the deck of cards that you were delt. You are doing that and that is far more respsectable than not doing at all. Your job now needs to be to see if you can get dealt a new hand.
Good luck with all this.