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"Participate joyfully in the sorrows of the world. We cannot cure the world of sorrow, but we can choose to live in joy." Joseph Campbell 1904-1987

I know what its like to go through a ton of bad things one after another after another. I had a gf of 4 years cheat on me and leave me when i was in college and it sucks. just last year i had my house broken into and virtually everything stolen, then walked out the next morning to find my car gone. you know things pile up sometimes and we all have to vent. but when i find that tons of bad things seem to all be happening at the same time and only happening to me i stop and try to figure out what i am doing. i mean it couldnt just be a coincidence that at one time everything went wrong. so i evaluate my own life and find what needs to be changed. the thing is it is easy to learn helplessness. to say "screw it the universe is conspiring against me anyway so why try" but its at those times you have to step back and start effecting positive change in yourself and in the people around you. i am not excusing the wretchedness of the people that did things that hurt me but i am accepting a certain amount of contributory negligence. there will always be bad people out there, or not bad but careless people, and thoughtless people. we have to just make ourselves prepared as best we can for the inevitable run ins we will have with them. just be prepared as best you can for the obstacles life has planned for you because there are lots of them. and its through overcoming the obstacles that we see our true potential and our true character or lack thereof.