Sign & Miss Jane - I know what it is to lose a soul mate. It is crushing. I was talking with a friend recently who is going throuh an unexpected divorce. I've been through what he's experiencing and you guys too.
I also am still struggling with the loss of my oldest son this last August.
I can honestly say that the grief is deeper in losing my son. But what I experienced when my wife left me years earlier was more agonizing to deal with in some other ways. This might surprise some.
The fact is..when you lose someone in death it's final. There's no going back..no fixing things and I know it's not my fault. But in the loss experienced with divorce/breakup the grief is coupled with guilt (the idea that maybe it's me) with false hope (maybe I can fix this) and of course hurt/anger (they chose to leave me) and the fear that it will happen again.
So divorce or break up can actually bring more emothional turmoil and baggage than the actual death of a loved one.
Don't go through it alone. Sharing here is a great outlet. But find a good church or support group/friends/family to lean on.
Lifting is great theropy too.
I guess I say all that to offer this, I understand and I'm really sorry for you hurt. Please hang in there. You have friends here who care.
I choose to believe that I will see my son again. I also choose to believe that God loves me and He sooths my pain.
I hope you both find peace in your own paths.
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