HA! 9 years later I still have dreams about doing bad thing to my ex's now wife/my ex friend.
8 years is a very long time. You lost someone close to you. You lost a relationship. You need to go through the grieving process. It's OK to dream or even think bad things. On purpose. Have fun with it!!
I forget the progression - it's something like denial, anger, sadness, acceptance, rinse & repeat until you're finally over it. That's how it went for me when the ex and I split. One day were were together. The next day he was shacked up with a mutual friend. Literally. I was told it takes 1/2 the time of the relationship to fully heal. I found that to be about right. Don't worry though, it gets easier over time. My real tough time was the first three months.
I remember at one point being so sick of being pissed off. I was seeing a therapist at the time and she was trying to get me to be mad when being mad wasn't what I wanted to be. I was so tired of being angry all the time. Being happy is so much easier than being mad. I just couldn't figure out how to get happy.
You have things you have to work through. Being mad is part of that process. Fantasizing or dreaming about knocking out those we perhaps perceive as haven taken something from us is probably kinda normal I'd think. There is no shortcut through the dark stuff. What are you mad about? Who are you mad at?
Here's the thing I learned through that process - I based my happiness on another and their actions, what they wanted and didn't want. I had zero control over my own life and therefore my own happiness because I chose to give that control over to my ex, who wanted nothing to do with me. He had much better things to do! Go figure.
I figured out that I was the one who made the choices I made and I was the one who put myself in that situation, despite his actions or inactions. I figured, if I got myself into that mess, I could get myself out. I finally had control over ME, and therefore my feelings. I finally had the control/ability to do something to get myself happy once I took him out of the equation (where he didn't want to be anyway!).
And, (not to make light because yeah it sucks but..) next time someone steals your bike, remember back to how you feel now. IMO life teaches us to keep things in perspective. Like they say, what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
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