Ah, here's the funny thing about thoughts... you'll have all kinds of them. Good, bad, ugly, horrific, terrible, monstrous, joyous, loving, caring, sweet...
The secret to "controlling" your thoughts is to know which ones to dismiss and stupid brain crap and which to hold onto... to feed yourself with.
So have the mean, hateful, vindictive, horrid thoughts. You'd gonna, can't stop them. But you can cast them out as being idiotic shit that'll just mire you in a place you don't want to be.
You don't want to be that angry guy that hates everything around him slowly poisoning himself to the point where he'll be unable to care anymore, all he'll know is hate and anger and self-loathing. You want to recognize that those thoughts will get you nowhere... and that you can chuckle for a second and then move on to better thoughts.
It's like balancing on one foot, right? You don't stand there immobile, you move a little and then compensate for it. That's what "controlling" your thoughts is. Having the idiotic ones and then moving past it and letting it go to allow something better in.
While you're dealing with trying to get rid of all the negative crap, don't forget to feed yourself with positive stuff too. Think about the good things, write about them, reinforce the little moments of happiness in your life, whether it's not getting caught in the rain or enjoying getting caught in the rain or getting a good parking space or deciding to park far away to get in some more moving-your-ass time... there's ALWAYS good things happening in our lives, little, big, etc... we're just not recognizing them because we're too busy looking for other stuff either to come or past us.
Be in the present... in the sunshine, in the clouds, in the grass, in the snow, with the fisheys, in the children's laughter, whatever. Allow yourself to see the good things to smile about. And then smile about them.
The past holds nothing but memories, the future promises nothing but hope... and neither are as important as what is right NOW.
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