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So once, again, thank you to everyone, if for nothing else but letting me get some major things out (they seem kind of stupid and insignificant when I read them after typing it up, but in my head they seem so massive) and not tearing me a new one for it.
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Because inside, they are. Everything in your head is important. Everything. And it's all equally important, and urgent and must be done. Or so your brain thinks.
By putting things down somewhere, you gain what you can't in your head. Perspective. Hierarchy. Understanding. Layers.
It's like organization. If you kept every last thing you had to do in your head, it constantly loops and loops to stay there. You don't know the relative importance of things, so the fact that the garage needs cleaning is as important as the paper due tomorrow or the power bill you need to pay.
Obviously the garage isn't as important, but if you keep it in your head it feels like it. If you write out a list of all that you have to do, you can then organize it into "right now, hurry up you procrastinating dolt" and "eventually if there's nothing else in the world to do and I've got the energy for it" as well as everything in between.
So emotions, thoughts, all that crap is all the same in your head. Urgent, important, and something you strive to not forget. By writing and talking and letting crap out, you allow yourself to organize your thoughts and put them into perspective, and it helps dissipate all that noise. Then you have room in your head for other stuff, and that stuff becomes less important and urgent because your brain knows you wrote it down and dealt with it.
Sure, it doesn't go away, but slowly over time it lessens the load, esp with regard to tough emotions. It also lets you reminisce in a nicer way. You remember the good, the bad, the ugly, with distance. Time gives distance, but so does just blurting the stuff out and then leaving it for a bit. The good then reminds you that happiness is possible, the bad reminds you that the split was necessary, etc.