easier said than done - but here is one thing to consider:
Thoughts will come into your head, like airplanes that fly over head. You don't have to give them a runway to land and disembark all the passengers.
Thoughts will come into your head like a door-to-door salesman comes to the door. You can say "go away, not interested". If not that, you can put a chain on the door, take a peak and then slam the door again. You don't have to let him in and feed him milk & cookies and then buy everything in his sample case.
you can stop the dwelling on the thoughts, the entertainment and embracing and expansion of them, the constant remembrance and recitation of wrongs, the endless looping, the endless imagined conversations and fights -- if you have to, do something else with your brain ... conjugate verbs in a foreign language, work calculus problems in your head, whatever is incompatible with dwelling/embracing/wallowing
it's not easy, but it is possible.
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Water babies singing in a lily-pool delight
Blue powder monkeys praying in the dead of night
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