It sounds like you have a lot of structural issues and mobility issues that only get exacerbated with strength training. IMO you should start with a comprehensive rehab-type program focusing on mobility (loosening tight areas) and activation (getting muscles that are "lazy" to fire properly). You might need to do a corrective program for an extensive amount of time before being able to move onto more typical resistance training programs (like a year or so) simply because your problems (although likely related) are fairly widespread across your body.
Check out
Galya's log for a good example of someone who has been focusing on corrective exercise for the past year (not that her program would be appropriate for you) or
Cappy's log.